Post # 1
So I am having my baby shower in a few months and have been asked to provide the guestlist to the host.
The issue is that I have many male friends who are like my brothers that I would love to invite because they are closer to me then my girlfriends. Would this be totally weird? I don’t want a co-ed shower I just want to invite a handful of male friends, some are married to current female guests, some are totally single and would come on their own. What do you think?
Post # 2
I say invite whoever you want!
Post # 3
Uggh, if I was a guy I wouldn’t want to come and be surrounded by a bunch of squaking women. What the hell is there to do but watch people play stupid games and gossip and open gifts. I’d think a guy would rather do something way more entertaining such as….anything.
Post # 4
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All the baby showers I have been to the last 15 years in NYC have been coed… It seems normal here… its usually like a birthday party… lots of food… the husband is there and they open gifts together… I dont think I have been to an all female shower since the 1990’s
Post # 5
I thint coed baby showers are becoming the norm as long as they aren’t overly cutesy with all the little games and things. The ones I’ve been to have been more of just a party/get together where we grilled and BBQed, so it wasn’t much different than other get togethers.
Post # 6
missjewels: If you don’t want it co-ed, invite the few men you do want there. It’s a party, you can invite who you want.
Post # 7
Totally depends on how your group of friends works. Would it be weird for the ladies who have SO’s you aren’t friends with and didn’t invite, when there are some other couples there?
Do you want the cutesy games and light appetizers, or are you game for a more laid back event with heavier food and more hanging out instead of planned activities?
I do think most guys aren’t big on the gift opening or games, even the Dad to Be’s! So if that’s the kind of shower you want, then you might want to consider an alternate activity for the guys. I know you said they’re friends of yours, so this might not work for you.
Two scenarios I’ve seen:
1) I recently hosted a shower for a close friend, and while the ladies were are the shower, the guys (including the Dad to be!) hit up the local casino and drank Scotch. Kind of gender-stereotypical but worked for us! The guys arrived at the end of the shower, just in time to decorate a onesie if they felt like it, and score some cupcakes.
2) For my bro and SIL’s shower, the ladies went to a brunch baby shower (minimal games, sit down meal), while the guys went out for burgers and beers at a brewpub (it was a family friendly brewpub, as the men took all the kids with them so the momma’s got a break!)
Post # 8
I went to a baby shower where the guys (dad to be, male guests) watched a hockey game and had pizza in the basement while the women did the baby shower. The only requirement for the male guests was to bring a box of diapers as a sort of “admission fee.” I thought it was a neat idea.
However, if you think the guys will want to participate in the shower games and baby discussions, by all means invite them! The more, the merrier. =)
Post # 9
missjewels: I think if you’re planning on having males and females, it’s co-ed.
Post # 10
Also wanted to add…will the guys be comfortable with the level of baby talk/labor stories/etc that inevitably seem to come up at a shower? I hosted a shower recently and heard the detailed story of a re-circumcision after a botched initial circ from a lady I’d just met that day. i thought it was funny, but people do tend to be a bit “open” at these kinds of events