- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have been having a guest-list freak out today and need some advice!
My Fiance and I are getting married next year. While in an ideal world we would have a small, intimate wedding, between the two of us our families (including first cousins, aunts and uncles) number nearly 100 people (as a sidenote, only about 25 of those are my FI’s family, the rest are my side). Almost all of these people are very important parts of our lives and we definitely will be inviting them all to our wedding. Add to that about 15-20 of our closest friends, and we have all the “must haves” and have reached a number we are both comfortable with.
I have always been very close with my dad’s side of the family, and there are a few of his cousins (my second and third cousins) who I see fairly regularly and who I would like to invite (they are all older, i.e. the age my grandparents would be if they were still living, and I feel like they would really appreciate being invited, and I would like to have them there). These are all people who my Fiance has met and he is happy to invite them as well.
Today I found out through my sister that my dad wants me to invite all of his cousins (an extra 20 people) because as he said “I can’t invite some of them and not all”.
What are your thoughts on this? I really don’t want to add an extra 2+ tables of people I barely ever see (and who my Fiance has never met) to a wedding that is already bigger than I would prefer. But I also don’t want to cut the few second cousins from my list just to satisfy the etiquette gods, and then have those people think I don’t consider them important enough to invite to my wedding. Does the “invite one invite them all” rule apply in this case (i.e. to 2nd cousins)?
I’d appreciate your imput and apologize for the length of this post.