(Closed) Inviting Officiant and violinist to reception

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Invite the officiant, but not the violinst. (assuming you did not previously know the violinst, and are paying him.)

It’s better to be polite and give the officiant the option of declining if he knows that he would feel uncomfortable not knowing anyone. (Invite him with a date/his SO of course.)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s nice to invite both if you have the space and resources. The only tip I have is to make sure you invite their spouses if they are married. My dad and I did music for weddings and one time he was invited to the reception, but I wasn’t (ok, that’s fine), and neither was my mom (not so fine!). Don’t make the mistake of being halfway courteous and insulting them instead 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

We have special food at the venue for the band. It’s about $50 a head (against the megabucks we have to pay for all the guests) so is there something like that you could do? Although I appreciate you don’t want to make them the odd ones out!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Both our officiant and our musicians are close friends of mine, so yes, I am inviting them to the reception!  But if I didn’t know them personally, I would NOT invite them to the reception.  For example, I am not inviting the DJ I hired and just met to the ceremony!

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