Post # 1
So I get a FB message the other day from my older cousin, her daughter, whos my age and also my cousin obviously, got engaged the same day I did(Christmas Day). She asks me if me and my FI had set a date and I tell her not yet, we’re still juggling a few dates. She then informs me that from my grandfathers part of the family, me, my mom and grandma are invited meaning my grandfather, stepdad and FI aren’t invited. First of all, my grandfather is her actual BLOOD uncle, so that is really messed up. She lived with my grandparents at one point! My grandparents have been married for 47 years, you don’t invite one of them and not the other. Then to not invite my stepdad and FI is just rude. My grandma or mom is suppose to talk to them sometime but if thats actually the case, I’m probably not going. And if we don’t go, my cousin’s soon to be husband is getting cut from my list, since I was nice enough to put him on my rough draft guest list by NAME. Ugh.
Post # 2
countrygirl91: I agree that she is being very rude, but don’t stoop to her level by not inviting her FI. Maybe she assumed you those people were included with you guys, or did she make it clear they weren’t?
Post # 3
Weddings and funerals have long been known for being a source for contention, between relatives. And people remember for years afterwards, who attends, who’s invited, etc. Shake my head …
Post # 4
MissPhish: Thats what my grandma is thinking hoping but I really don’t think so bc she went out of her way to message me and tell me. She said and i quote “Yea I needed to get with u guys cause we r cut the wedding list down so we r inviting u mom and grandma to wedding.” She probably would have at least mentioned my grandfather if he was invited.
Post # 5
Sometimes I refer to an entire family by mentioning only one person like to my mom and stuff but she knows I mean everyone. If she didn’t invite the men, that’d be weird.
Post # 6
Wow, that’s awful! Going through something sort of similar. Weddings are supposed to be such a happy time but in reality they seem to lead to a lot of hurt feelings.
I don’t think you should cut your cousin from the list. Be the bigger person and invite him.
Good luck sweetie!