Post # 1
Is anyone only inviting children who are in the wedding party? Even if that means nieces and nephews are excluded.
My in-laws have decided that they no longer want to be in our wedding and that they would not like their children to participate either. Since they have decided their children will not be involved in our wedding, they still want them to come as guests. FI and I do not agree with this and feel that if they do not want to be part of our day and do not want their family to be involved then they fall under the rule we made for all our our guests across the board.
Unfortunately due to all of the turmoil FI and I are not close with his neices and nephews (he isn’t allowed around them because they don’t like me). So we tried to do the right thing and include them and now if has turned into a disaster.
Has anyone else gone through this and how has it worked?
Post # 3
Sorry about this situation – I’ve been following your posts. Although I’m not in this situation, I would (kindly) let the in-laws know that you made the decision that the wedding is an adults-only event and out of fairness to the rest of your guests, you aren’t able to make exceptions to this rule and understand if in-laws aren’t able to attend because they aren’t able to find a babysitter in time.
(because without niece/nephew in the wedding, there’s now no children in the ceremony, right?)
Post # 4
@Goldilocks- Thanks for your response, I know I have posted about this issue before but I am just torn. This situation seemed to die down a little and as of this morning it has become a full force battle. I received an email from one of my SIL who isn’t even sure that she wants to attend herself that I am shameful and a disgrace if I do not allow my FI’s nephew to attend the wedding. I am just confused because they don’t feel that they are close enough to even attend but if they decide to I should make exceptions because we are so close. I just want to know if we are crazy and we stick to our guns even if that means a battle.
There actually will be other kids attending. I have four flower girls (my first cousin’s girls) who will be attending since they are in the wedding. My FI’s two nephews and niece were originally included as part of the wedding party so therefore they were invited. We included all of the children that we wanted to attend in our wedding party so we could go across the board with no children that aren’t in the wedding party.