Post # 1
My bridal shower is being held at my MOH’s parent’s house in my hometown, and I’m really excited for it! I have been trying to figure out who to invite, and am planning on all my bridesmaids, most of their moms (I’m close with all the moms… I’ve known most of them since I was about 10), the cousins and aunts in my family and a couple of close friends who live in town.
My only concern is with two of my bridesmaids’ moms… I would invite them for sure if they lived in town, but they live on the opposite side of the state… four hours away. Should I send them an invite even though I know they won’t be able to come? I don’t want it to look like I’m asking for a gift in their absense, but I also don’t want them to think they just weren’t invited.
I’ve got a similar concern with a cousin of mine. She lives in Virgina (my shower will be in western Ohio), is having a new baby TODAY (shower will be at the end of April) and has recently just lost her job. Obviously I know she won’t be able to come to the shower (she may not even be able to make it to the wedding), so I don’t know if I should send her an invite.
Should I send these women invites or not? I don’t think any of them would be offended, but I just want to cover my bases, just in case.
Post # 3
I definitely had the same problem. A lot of my family and even friends are out of town from where the shower will be held. I still invited them because I didn’t want to offend even though I was pretty sure they wouldn’t be able to make it. Besides, you never know!
Post # 4
Same thing as me half my family is 4 hours away but they’re all invited to the shower anyways. We were always invited to theirs, its just a curtosey thing 🙂
Post # 5
I only invited a few OOT women for the same reason- I didn’t want to seem gift-grabby. The ones I did invite were those who would be offended if they didn’t get an invitation, like my aunt, and had already planned on sending a gift.
Post # 6
Why not invite OOT? Don’t decide for them… give them the option of coming! Extend the invitation if they’re people you would like there. The logistics of getting there are up to them, if they decide to come.
Post # 7
I say go ahead and invite. I live in California and my best friend (who got married) lives in Michigan. I was a bridesmaid and surprised when I found out that I hadn’t been invited to the shower.
My friend’s reasoning was that she didn’t want us to feel obligated to travel more than once, so she left us off of the guest list for the shower . . . but I felt like an invite would have been nice.
Post # 8
@rachelb44: I say invite, but follow up with a personal note or call that you don’t expect themt o come but wanted them to know you were thinking of them.
Post # 9
I said this in another thread. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last summer. Since I lived in a different state, I was not invited to the shower, and didn’t even know about it until I saw pictures on Facebook. I was not able to attend, but had I been invited/known about it, I would have sent a gift. I will admit, I was hurt I wasn’t considered at all.