Inviting People from Work – Should I?

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@EmmiJeanne:  I only invited 1 person from work because we are REALLY good friends.  Nobody else was invited.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@EmmiJeanne:  I’m in the same boat.. about 15 people and I thought it would be really rude to only invite the like 3 I am close with since we are all in one office. I gave everyone and invite and will be really happy if the few I really like come, and the others will be ok either way

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@EmmiJeanne:  If you don’t hang out with them outside of work, save yourself the drama and don’t invite anybody.  Co-workers will wonder where the line was drawn and it may affect your relationships at work.  If you hang out with a few outside of work then it would make sense to invite them and not others because it should be obvious to co-workers that you are friends with those people and not just co-workers.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I am good friends with people at work, at work.  Not outside of work. This is a place that if you invite 1, you have to invite all. We decided to exclude co-workers from our guest list to avoid any drama or favortism, etc…    

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

@EmmiJeanne:  I do not think you should mix your work and personal life.  If you were actually friends with people outside of work then I’d say invite them.  But you aren’t.  I want to be able to totally relax and chill at my wedding, and not have to stress about Uncle Fritz getting so wasted and sexually harassing my boss.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@EmmiJeanne:  If you quit your job, would you remain friends with these people? Do you regularly see them outside of work? If the answers to both of those questions isn’t, “yes!” then you should not invite them as they are colleagues and not friends. I wouldn’t want to be put out buying a wedding gift for someone I didn’t even consider a friend. I have plenty of coworkers I am friendly with but that just means we have a good working relationship not that we are personal friends.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have coworkers that I would consider myself friends with, at work. We don’t hang out outside of work and probably would not see each other regularly if we weren’t to work together anymore. I will not be inviting any coworkers. I also think there’s some potential issues with inviting some, but not others, as well as drinking in front of your boss. That’s just a situation I wouldn’t put myself in.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you don’t hang out with them outside of work, I would say don’t invite them.  I also think that in most cases with coworkers if you invite a couple you should invite them all.  I opted not to invite any of my coworkers and they all completely understand that.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@KC-2722:  I agree about the drinking inf ront of your boss issue.  My department is only 3 people but we don’t even have lunch together, much less spend time together outside of the office so I’m not inviting any of them.  Plus, since I plan to really kick back, have fun (i.e. drink some libations), and really be myself at my wedding, I don’t necessarily want my boss or secretary to see me as my “normal” self because they may find it unprofessional.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i did not invite anyone from work.  i do hang out with them occassionally outside of work at happy hour but not friends with them enough to invite them to my wedding.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@EmmiJeanne:  i only work with five others and will be inviting them. we don’t have relationships outside of work but since it’s such a small office i figure why not? my FI is inviting like 4 or 5 co-workers that he works closely with…

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We only invited people that we hung out with outside of work. We also didn’t invite bosses because we both have multiple bosses/project managers.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@beachbride1216:  SAME! I’m not a drunk or anything, but I do plan on having a great time and you never know what other people may think, especially when they only know you professionally. I’m young and have worked hard for my professional repuation, I think inviting superiors/ coworkers is just a risky move.

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