The manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
The manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
The manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
I personally would not invite someone to a high-cost, really elaborate bachelorette party (e.g. weekend at a resort, weekend in Vegas) if they weren't a wedding guest.
The manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to a shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower* is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
I personally would not invite someone to a high-cost, really elaborate bachelorette party (e.g. weekend at a resort, weekend in Vegas) if they weren't a wedding guest.
*The only exception to this is a work shower thrown by your department / co-workers.
Sakoro is right - it's generally frowned upon to invite people to a shower, but there is more wiggle around a bachelor/ette party. We're inviting a handful of folks to a joint shower that will not be invited to the wedding and formal reception, but will make it clear that it is a non-gift shower and are framing it as more of a celebration party than a traditional shower, as we're having a very small family wedding/reception and can't invite a lot of our dance friends. That said, we are hosting a tango reception after we get back from our honeymoon to which all the tango peep will be invited.
I was just wandering if a person not invited to the wedding reception can be invited to the Bridal Shower or the Bachelorette's Party? Is this ok?
posted by lyka168 18 posts 7 months agono. if you aren't inviting them to the wedding, you definitely shouldn't invite them to your shower or your bachelorette party.
posted by sayithot 58 posts 7 months agoThe manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
posted by Sakoro 19 posts 7 months agoThe manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
posted by Sakoro 19 posts 7 months agoI would definietly be offendede if i was invited to a shower but not the wedding.
posted by FutureMrs 153 posts 7 months agoThe manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
I personally would not invite someone to a high-cost, really elaborate bachelorette party (e.g. weekend at a resort, weekend in Vegas) if they weren't a wedding guest.
posted by Sakoro 19 posts 7 months agoThe manners gurus say 'no' to inviting non-wedding guests to a shower but 'yes' to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower* is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).
I personally would not invite someone to a high-cost, really elaborate bachelorette party (e.g. weekend at a resort, weekend in Vegas) if they weren't a wedding guest.
*The only exception to this is a work shower thrown by your department / co-workers.
posted by Sakoro 19 posts 7 months agoNo, this is not okay. Sakoro is correct with the exception of showers thrown at your work -- as long as you had nothing to do with trowing it!
posted by caliocteach 720 posts 7 months agoSakoro is right - it's generally frowned upon to invite people to a shower, but there is more wiggle around a bachelor/ette party. We're inviting a handful of folks to a joint shower that will not be invited to the wedding and formal reception, but will make it clear that it is a non-gift shower and are framing it as more of a celebration party than a traditional shower, as we're having a very small family wedding/reception and can't invite a lot of our dance friends. That said, we are hosting a tango reception after we get back from our honeymoon to which all the tango peep will be invited.
posted by missm 485 posts 7 months ago