(Closed) Inviting people to Bridal Party and Bachelorette’s Pary

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

no. if you aren’t inviting them to the wedding, you definitely shouldn’t invite them to your shower or your bachelorette party.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

The manners gurus say ‘no’ to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but ‘yes’ to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

The manners gurus say ‘no’ to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but ‘yes’ to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I would definietly be offendede if i was invited to a shower but not the wedding.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

The manners gurus say ‘no’ to inviting non-wedding guests to the shower but ‘yes’ to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).

I personally would not invite someone to a high-cost, really elaborate bachelorette party (e.g. weekend at a resort, weekend in Vegas) if they weren’t a wedding guest.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

The manners gurus say ‘no’ to inviting non-wedding guests to a shower but ‘yes’ to a bachelorette party. The logic behind this is that the shower* is a mandatory gift-giving occasion while the bachelorette party is not (beyond buying the bride a drink).

I personally would not invite someone to a high-cost, really elaborate bachelorette party (e.g. weekend at a resort, weekend in Vegas) if they weren’t a wedding guest.

 *The only exception to this is a work shower thrown by your department / co-workers.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

No, this is not okay.  Sakoro is correct with the exception of showers thrown at your work — as long as you had nothing to do with trowing it!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Sakoro is right – it’s generally frowned upon to invite people to a shower, but there is more wiggle around a bachelor/ette party.  We’re inviting a handful of folks to a joint shower that will not be invited to the wedding and formal reception, but will make it clear that it is a non-gift shower and are framing it as more of a celebration party than a traditional shower, as we’re having a very small family wedding/reception and can’t invite a lot of our dance friends.  That said, we are hosting a tango reception after we get back from our honeymoon to which all the tango peep will be invited.

 

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