Post # 1
At every wedding I have attended, the priest/minister etc has been at the reception. Is this 100% required? We love our priest, but I don’t know if it is “required” or not. And, should we send him a formal invite with the RSVP and shabang? Or does he presume he is coming? What is the etiquette here??
Post # 3
I’m not sure of the etiquette, but my pastor and his wife straight out said they were excited to be at our reception. I chose to send them the whole invite, including RSVP, I think it helps to keep them on the same page. So, technically, I don’t know if it’s a definite that you have to, but I think they kind of expect it. : )
Post # 4
I’m pretty sure that you’re supposed to invite your officiant, at least that’s the norm with us for rabbi’s. I would send him a formal invite. Usually the officiant doesn’t come as far as I’ve seen, but it’s a nice gesture.
Post # 5
Our priest had two weddings, confession and celebrated mass (5pm) the day of our wedding. He was too exhausted to go to any party.
Post # 6
I didn’t invite ours because our reception was the same time as Mass so I figured he would be busy. (In addition to the many other issues I had with him…) My mother in law must have given him the details though, because he did come after all. He didn’t stay long and I think he only had a piece of cake because he showed up after dinner.
If you do want him there, then I’d at least give him the reception information.
Post # 7
I think it’s pretty standard to invite them yes. Ours was of course invited since he was family but same goes for priests. Last Catholic wedding I attended the priest and alter boys where there for at least the cocktail hour. Not sure if they stayed the whole time.
Post # 8
We love our priest and did invite him to the reception. We sent him a formal invite, sat him with the guests (DH’s parents, actually- they had a great time!), and had him give a blessing before our meal. I’m so glad we had him at the reception, because he’s so much fun! I think whether you invite your priest depends on your relationship with him.
Post # 9
Sorry, but we are not inviting. Our wedding will be very small and while he is a great person, I don’t know him that well – so I don’t think it’s necessary.
Post # 10
My fiance’s priest will be invited to our reception, although we’re not sure if he will come. We think it would be lovely to have him there and I think my fiance wants to ask him to say grace before the meal, as a gesture. His priest is a really lovely man and is a load of fun, so I sy the more the merrier!
Post # 11
I think most people do. We were very close with our priest and deacon, but the priest did not come. I think if you don’t know them at all, and you are their 3rd wedding that day or something, they probably won’t come anyway. But truthfully, everyone feels good when they receive and invitation, whether or not they want to go. Unless its a huge inconvenience, invite him!
Post # 12
I think it’s traditional to at least extend the invite. At most Catholic weddings I’ve been to, the priest says a quick blessing before dinner.
We are definately inviting our priest. Fiance is converting to be a full Catholic before the wedding so our relationship with the priest *should* be pretty solid by next year 🙂 Besides, he was a teacher for many years before joining the priesthood and is very “modern” and actually a pretty fun guy.
Post # 13
I formally invited our priest even though I suspected he wouldn’t be able to attend. The church has Mass the night of our reception. He was unable to attend but I’m glad I invited him. I think its the polite thing to do since he does play a very important role in the wedding ceremony.
Post # 14
We invited ours (and we aren’t that close to him) through e-mail. He actually came to the cocktail hour but said he couldn’t stay for the rest. It was funny because he stayed all the way until we got introduced – he was standing right by us watching all the action – I guess he was enjoying himself!
Post # 15
I invited mine via email since we have never met him in person. He is obviously attending the wedding rehearsal, and I also invited him to the rehearsal dinner since I wasn’t sure about the etiquette for that either!? It’s a destination wedding, and he doesn’t live in the town we’re marrying in, so I figured he wouldn’t have anything else to do & we may as well include him.
Post # 16
Wait! Alter boys too? They don’t get an invitation do they? I have no idea who the boys will be…until maybe at the rehersal.