Post # 1
I have what I think is a unique invite situation. I have an Aunt and Uncle in my extended family (Step-mom’s side) who have 3 kids (19, 17 and 14 I think). I’ve recently reconnected a bit with their daughter (she’s the oldest of the 3) because of another cousin’s wedding events, however I don’t know her younger brothers very well (one of them said Hi at the wedding and that he was my cousin and I had to ask which one).
Originally I was only planning on inviting my Aunt and Uncle but now I’m considering inviting their daughter and her SO but am not sure where that leaves her brothers, should I be inviting them too as they all live at home?
I’m starting to worry because with my extended step family the guestlist is starting to get a little out of control.
Post # 3
Are you inviting kids from other families? We are doing over 18 that might work for you if you dont have anyone else under 18 invited.
Post # 4
I agree the 18+ might be a good way to go.
I will just add that if my older brother were invited to a wedding for a relative and me and my sister were not, I would be offended.
Post # 5
I’m inviting a few select kids that I’m really close to (it’s a total of 7 but includes my step sisters and Fi’s only neice) but that’s it, everyone else is over 19, legal drinking age in our area.
Post # 6
I’m having the same issue! I planned on inviting my step-mom’s sister and husband but not their kids (older with their own families). I really enjoy one of the cousins and her family, but couldn’t remember her brother’s name. Both my parents are divorced and remarried so the step-family is making the gust list GROW! I think I’ll end up talking to my dad about it and maybe my step-mom and dad will offer to pay the difference for inviting the step-family. Good luck to you! Please keep us posted on what you did!
Post # 7
if you’re having others under 18, you really should invite them. it would be different if they were grown and had their own families, but it just doesn’t seem appropriate to invite the parents and only 1 child out of 3 unless you’re going with the blanket-rule of no one under 18 (no exceptions!)
Post # 8
I think you’d be okay to just invite the aunt and uncle and none of their children. But I think if you are going to invite the daughter than you have to invite her brothers since they all live at home together. Putting myself in the shoes of the brothers, I’d be very hurt and offended to be excluded from the invite.
Post # 9
Hmmm. . .that’s a tough call. If you are planning on doing 18 and older, that would be ok. The issue with that is all of the other aunt’s and uncle’s kids from your step mom’s side that are over the age of 18.
If the guest list is getting out of control, you may want to keep it simple.
Post # 10
I think in the end I’m going to invite them all, because I know my aunt will want to bring her daughter to the shower so she’ll have some company, but after this I’m not adding one else! My family alone is 53 people!