Post # 1
This is going to be rather long but I have to explain everything. I have been with my FI for 10 years, I have also worked at the same place for 10 years with mostly the same people. Most of us are pretty close, we consider each other family. When deciding on who of my coworkers were invited, I decided the ones that I am closest to were invited. Problem is one of these coworkers is also close to another group of coworkers that are basically stuck together, they rarely talk to me, just hi or bye. I thought it would be no problem by not inviting that group. Makes sense to me. Of course that group is upset and don’t know why they aren’t invited. When I figured out how difficult it was to keep the guest list under control I purposefully did not talk about my wedding in front of them so there wouldn’t be any awkwardness. I had no intention of hurting feelings and honestly thought they wouldn’t care but now they are complaining about it behind my back to other coworkers? How do I handle this or do I just go on and act like I don’t know they are upset? (this particular group of 5 all started working there within the last couple of years)
Post # 3
Just tell them your thoughts? Explain to them that you aren’t inviting coworkers, you are inviting friends–they should know that they don’t really say more than two words to you so I don’t know what their problem is…I wouldn’t expect a wedding invitation from someone I’m not good friends with.
I dunno, I would definitely be honest with them. If they were getting married do you think they’d invite you? By the sound of it, I would say no–its really hard to keep that guest list down. Sounds like they are just being catty. : Good luck!
Post # 4
thanks, i didn’t think it would bother them. they are all married so i know they have been where i am at with the guest list. one of them is definitely being catty, the others i think just kind of feel left out, i know this sounds very self centered but because i have waited so long for this wedding it really is the EVENT of the summer for us at work. thanks for the advice.
Post # 5
I’d just leave it be. They feel left out, and are complaining about it. Let them complain. If they really thought about it, they’d understand that they aren’t close and just because you work with someone doesn’t mean you are automatically invited to their wedding.
If someone mentions it to you directly, you can explain yourself. But, for now – just let it go.
Post # 6
I was having the same problem.. with people saying they are just going to crash the party… or asking me on FB or thru E-mail ” Im invited right?”
I just said you have to understand we are on a budget so not everyone is going to get invited. I dont have $40 to feed the world… this $40 doesn’t even include the alcohol im providing.. I have had one ask if she can come after dinner just for the dance part… I told her my venue wouldn’t allow that… Like serious????
Post # 7
I would probably just ignore it unless they asked you face to face. You don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why they’re not invited.
Post # 8
Haha, I had a coworker that I’ve only been working with for 4 months-ish tell me that if she wasn’t invited she was going to come crash the wedding! In my head I was like, WTF I don’t even know your last name?!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t say anything at all.. Not your problem. It’s your wedding and you decide who you want there and don’t..end of story. 🙂