Inviting someone when you're not sure they'll invite you?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsBillyBall:  right. If you want then there invite them when if you don’t think you will be invited to theirs. Are they having a smaller wedding?

Post # 5
42182 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsBillyBall:  Invite them if you want them at your wedding and they make the cut budget- wise.

It doesn’t matter if they do or do not invite you to their wedding.

Post # 6
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@julies1949:  +1

If you’re really concerned about it, then don’t send them a STD and wait to see if you get an invitation to their wedding before making the decision on yours

Post # 7
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I would say like the pp’s if you want them there invite them, simple as that. I don’t think its really a tit for tat kind of thing. If you really want them there, and can afford to have them there, that should be the deciding factor. I’m sure thats how they are looking at it with their invitations/guest list too.

ETA: Would it be awkward? I don’t know, only you can answer that. Would you feel awkward inviting them, and then they don’t invite you guys?

Also, honestly it sounds as if you don’t really care if they show up or not. If you’re only justification in inviting them is only if they invite you to their wedding as well.  


Post # 8
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Invite them if you want them there, regardless of their wedding. 

I invited friends from college to my wedding when they did not invite me to their wedding a few months prior.  They had their reasons, whatever, but I did want them there so I invited them regardless 🙂

Post # 9
9207 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

It doesn’t matter if they invite you, you should invite people to your wedding based on who you want there, not based on whether or not you get an invite to their wedding.

Post # 10
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsBillyBall:  kinda sounds like a tit for tat thing…  that you will only invite them if they will invite you.  if you really want them at your wedding, you will invite them no matter what. 
we weren’t invited to my fiance’s friend’s wedding (no big deal), but i’m pretty sure he’s looking to be invited to ours (we’re having a destination wedding)…  i dont want to invite him and his wife not bc we weren’t invited to their wedding, but bc our wedding is small, and is for close family and close friends, and well…  he’s not a close friend and neither is his wife!

Post # 11
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Who cares if they invite you? If they don’t, bfd. What matters is that you have the people you want at your wedding.

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