Post # 1
I’m a teacher. I have 2 bosses, a principal and a director. I’m comfortable sending a formal invitation to my director, because I know she will be professional and attend the ceremony and not the reception (as she has done for other teachers). I’m not confident that my principal would do the same. I’m closer to the director, but if I invite her, I kind of have to invite my principal as well. My co-workers that are attending the wedding are worried that she won’t be as professional given an invitation and will also attend the reception making my co-workers uncomfortable. Any thoughts? Invite both and hope? Invite neither and probably offend my director? Invite both to ceremony only or is that really rude? HELP!
Post # 3
Easier for me…. my principal and director are incompetent blowhards. I didn’t even think of inviting either. Sorry I’m not much help.
Post # 4
@rurahrah – LOL! I wouldn’t have this problem if my principal didn’t think she was friends with everyone!
Post # 5
Invite neither. Why should the director be offended? A rule I’ve heard is you only invite people you socialise with and would stay close to even if you changed jobs. So if you don’t spend time with the director socially, it’s not a problem. I’m assuming the teachers you’re inviting are those you’re close to, and you’re not inviting every teacher. In other words, you can reasonable say that you’re only inviting those closest to you.
What I did: I worked in an office of about 40 people, and only invited one girl I was close to (but who I kind of knew couldn’t come, and didn’t).
It’s generally considered rude to invite people to the ceremony only.
Post # 6
I understand your prediciment. I’m also a teacher. I’ve invited my principal and her husband because I genuinely enjoy her company. She’s been very good and supportive towards me. But now I also want to invite my deputy principal as well as the colleague I’m closest to. So I’ll be needing to do a bit of shuffling around of numbers!
Post # 7
i had a rule for my wedding, if i socialise outside of work with people then they would be invited, ie have they been to my house and have i been to theirs, would they attend my birthday dinner etc.
People get so hung up on wedding etiquette, myself included, i dont know why it has to be so hard LOL
Post # 8
My fiance is a teacher. He will be inviting his principal and not his director. I told him that he had to invite his boss, as it was proper etiquette. He didn’t mention that he would need to invite his director too…
Post # 9
In your case I would not invite either. I guess normally I would say inviting my principal not the director would make more sense since I see the principal on a daily basis and work closer to her than the director. But because your case is the other way around I would invite neither.