Inviting the step family?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I invite the stepfamily?
    No - you haven't seen them in over a year! : (3 votes)
    23 %
    Invite stepdads parents only : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Invite them all! : (9 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    If you want them – have them! Maybe look at your total guest list before inviting them?

    I know my mum would push me to invite my step-family but that’s just because she is a bit unreasonable 🙂

    Post # 4
    1168 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MissSparky:  If you want to and you have room, why not? Im inviting my step-grandmother’s family- technically my mom’s step mom, step brothers and step sisters

    My grandpa and her got married in their senior years (both second marriages), so nobody really considers anybody steps. We see them maybe 2-3x a year, if that. I wouldnt say everyone is close, but its always very pleasant when we see each other. 

    Post # 7
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MissSparky:  “I guess my wondering stems from a friend lecturing me on not inviting people we haven’t seen in 6 months

    Your friend was being silly. Perhaps you could apply that rule to friends, but not family. If that was the criterion then we would have invited almost no uncles, aunts and cousins. (When in fact we invited them all).

    (I get that they’re not actually family, but it’s a family connection not a friend connection).
    As for “making up the numbers”, I have never felt like that. and I’m sure your FI’s stepfather’s relatives will feel honoured if they are invited. So I voted: invite them if you want to (but it’s ok not to, also).

    Post # 8
    1168 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MissSparky:  Totally understand. Its that middle of the road type of relationship. You dont want to hurt feelings by not inviting and you dont want to pressure them into coming by extending the invite… because you dont know if they expect one or not. 

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