(Closed) Inviting Those To a Shower You Know Can’t Come

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes – you never know who will come. I’d go anywhere for a good friend.

Post # 4
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve flown four hours to attend a shower before so don’t automatically assume people will not show because of the travel. Maybe your fiance’s family will want to make it a fun roadtrip carpool to be there.

Post # 5
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sure, invite them!

If you really feel funny about it, with Out of Town friends (my close ones), I’ve sent emails with a heads up with something a la “wanted you to be invited, but understand if you can’t make it”

Post # 6
380 posts
Helper bee

Definitely invite them! Some may be able to make it and it’s a nice gesture to them to see that you *wanted* them to be there, as opposed to just not inviting them at all.

Post # 7
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you should definitely have a shower- like the PP said, you never know who will come! I gave my mom a list of everyone invited to the wedding and told her not to invite certain people to my shower because of the distance they live from here- I did not want anyone to feel obligated to buy me a gift just because they got an invite. Soooo…the first gift we received in the mail was from one of my college roommates who lives halfway across the country. Somehow my mom didn’t follow my instructions and all of my friends got an invite- even if they lived 1000 miles away. So, even if not everyone can make it, it is very fun to receive gifts in the mail!

Post # 8
11342 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You should give the person hosting your shower a complete list of the women whom you are inviting to the wedding and whom you think it appropriate also to invite to your shower.  If these women are close friends and family members, even if they cannot attend the festivities, some likely will want to send a gift anyway. Also, as some PPs noted, some of those ladies may surprise you and want to travel to be there with and for you. I had several friends and family members who could not make either the wedding or the shower who still purchased shower gifts for me. One friend had a conflict with one of her children’s schedules on the day of my wedding and took great pains to travel about two hours in each direction just to attend my shower, since she already knew she could not attend the wedding.

Post # 10
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My friend got married last year, I was invited to the wedding, but not the shower. Another girl who lives in my same town got invited to both. I was so pissed that I was not EVEN invited- regardless if I could make it or not – that I didn’t make the 3 hour drive to her wedding. (I was having car troubles too.. but I could have worked it out hard enough to make it… I just decided that it wasn’t worth it to go to the wedding)

Seems pathetic, but I felt it was a dis of some sort. She should have invited me to the shower regardless. 


You never know, they might show up!

The topic ‘Inviting Those To a Shower You Know Can’t Come’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors