Post # 1
My FI and I are getting married about 10 hours away from where we currently live in my hometown. We are inviting both of our families to the same degree (aunts, uncles, cousins). His mom wants to have a reception back where we live after the wedding. I’m not against this idea at all, but she wants to invite everyone and their mother.
Is it rude to not invite people to the actual ceremony and reception, and only invite them to the local reception? Should we invite people that traveled to the local one as well?
Post # 3
I have to be honest that in my circle when people do this everyone thinks it’s rude. It feels like “I wasn’t important enough to see you get married?”
I am planning a wedding for the bride, where she invites everyone to the destination but the invitation says (in a cute way) that the guests shouldn’t be sad if they can’t travel because their bringing the party back with them and then invites them to a at home reception.
Most of her guests are not going to the destination, but are attending the reception here, but since everyone was invited no one got their feelings hurt or felt offended. Her reply card had 3 choices: Big Partier!, Part-time Partier, and Party-Pooper. I know it’s casual sounding but I thought I would share 🙂
Post # 4
@mwitter80: I think the same thing. If I’m going to invite them to the local reception, they should be invited to the actual wedding. I like the idea of saying “Don’t worry if you can’t make it, we’re doing something local too.” Or something like that. Thanks!
Post # 5
I was recently invited to a wedding half-way across the country, but the bride was from my town, and so she had an additional reception in our town after they were back from their honeymoon.
I actually really liked it, since it made me not feel guilty for not spending money on airfare and a hotel to go to her far-away reception, but I still got to celebrate with her.
So, I’m not sure how I would have felt if I hadn’t even been invited to the far-away reception/wedding. I think that if people are invited to both, then there’s less a chance they’ll come to the wedding/reception if they live close to the 2nd reception, so you have less to worry about with numbers.