- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
The compromise was: ceremony and reception in New York (where Fiance is from and where we live) and then reception one week later in Chicago (where I grew up and where my parents and most of my family still live). So as not to hurt anyone’s feelings, we’re trying to give equal weight to both celebrations.
So how do we play this? Do we invite everyone on our list to both? Or do we Venn diagram out our list and invite some people to one or the other, some people to both? I would ideally like to invite everyone to everything and let them choose what they want to do, but I’m afraid that people might feel obligated to travel when they don’t really want to–I mean, the whole point of having two celebrations is to make it easier for people to celebrate with us. We also don’t want to risk offending anyone who would want to come to the ceremony or travel to Chicago or whatever.
Our ceremony and NY reception take place at the same place and we’re planning to just have “reception to follow” on the invitation. If we invited everyone to everything, would we make sense to include a “reception card” for Chicago, or would that be confusing? Could our response card include both NY and Chicago, or–again–confusing? I want to make this really easy for everyone and just as many people with us as possible.
Any suggestions or experiences or unforeseen pitfalls would be appreciated.