Post # 1
In the past year I’ve started going to lunch with a bunch of girls from another department once or twice a month. They’re nice, fun and we have great conversations. I decided to invite them to my wedding (never brought it up with them, since we only decided who to invite in the last month).
So last week I dropped by their desk to give them invites off one morning. I think there was a bit of akwardness at the unexpectedness of it. Now I feel a bit silly. I have no idea about ettiquette for inviting colleagues who you hang out with on a irregular basis. I didn’t expect much but either way but I feel like I’ve caused some weirdness as they were not expecting it and haven’t heard from them since. Should I have given them invites? Is this a wait and see, or just follow up with them on rsvp when it comes up?
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t do this, but I think it’s a nice gesture. If I received a invite from an coworker and if I wasn’t busy and the wedding wasn’t too far I probably go and bring a gift. I plan on inviting former two former co workers because they are now friends, and one co worker and his girlfriend. Because we become good friends outside of work. They may come, may not either way you gave them the invites and it’s up to them.
Post # 4
@TwoCityBride: glad you think it wouldn’t hurt…it never came up in our conversations so I think its more the fact they didn’t expect it and are probably talk to each other about this “huh?” moment. They usually all sit together for work functions, etc…so its likely if one goes, all will go, or all will not.
Post # 5
I think it’s fine if you guys are close. I personally wouldn’t have hand delivered them, but that’s just me and probably not a big deal.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
If you’ve been going out with them for lunch for the past year, I don’t think it’s weird at all for you to have invited them. If they seem awkward about it though, just wait and see how the RSVPing goes.
Post # 7
@elysion: I’m just feeling a tad anxious whether I’ve breached some work/social faux paus, lol. But glad you think its cool…guess its a only-time-will-tell thing…
Post # 8
I don’t see how this is a breach of workplace etiquette. Personally, if a co-worker invited me to their wedding I would be super excited!
Maybe they were just surprised by the invites because they didn’t expect to receive them?
Post # 9
I don’t think that work friends “expect” to be invited because weddings are expensive and we all understand taht. With that being said, I don’t see anything WRONG with inviting them if you can afford it. Who is offended by an invite? I think you’re fine. 🙂 It was very kind of you to include them.
Post # 10
@blinx: My mom goes to wedding with people from work all the time. I dont think it is out of the ordinary if you have a friendly relationship with them. Probably whould have mailed them formally though.
Post # 11
I’m inviting a few people from work but I’m mailing invites to their home addresses since I’m not inviting everyone here. Mainly, the people that I eat lunch with or have hung out with outside of office hours, like you.
Post # 12
I don’t see the problem; I’m inviting 4 of the girls from work but will be mailing them to their homes.
Post # 13
@blinx: I would feel weird if I got a wedding invite from a girl I went out for lunch with, as a group from the office, once or twice a month. That’s not really being social out of work friendships. Lunch is part of the workday.
Post # 14
It seems like you ladies were close enough so I don’t see anything wrong with inviting them. Now the ball is in their court.