Post # 1
My mom thinks I should invite my boss to my destination wedding. I started working there after getting engaged. I think it would be awkward as I’d like to keep my personal and work life separate. What is the traditional ettiquette on this?
Post # 3
@orangeroses29: I’m afraid I’ve been wondering this too, and I don’t yet know the answer. In my case, my boss is someone who I’ve known since I was 15, who hired me because he knew my skills dating back to then, and who I see socially sometimes. But I don’t really know him that well even so.
Urgh, hopefully others who know more can come help us out here!
Post # 4
I had a similar dilemma b/c I was told by a colleague that it would be rude not to invite my boss. However, I know that my boss has his own life and if he’s not working, he’s got his own family. I did not end up inviting him b/c I didn’t want to make him feel obligated to go when he could spend that free time with his kids/wife. There were no hard feelings or complaints/criticisms.
I think traditional etiquette goes back to the times when everyone in your “village” was invited to a “maiden’s” great wedding, and this would include the boss/supervisor. It may be a little outdated now.
Also, the fact that it’s a destination wedding should be reason enough not to invite your boss unless you are very close outside of work (which is another animal in itself). Just limit the wedding talk at work, and if it gets brought up, just say, “Oh, it’s really small – we felt it was easier that way.”
Post # 5
@orangeroses29: I have no idea the proper ettiquete, but I would go with whatever you feel more comfortable with. I’m inviting my main manager and his wife because I wanted to (although I’m not expecting them to go lol) but i am not inviting my other 4 managers (I support 5 managers). My main manager is the one I get along with best and his wife I talk to on the phone all the time…so I figured why not. But if you aren’t comfortable with it, then don’t worry about it…i don’t think the manager will notice if he/she doesn’t get one.
Post # 6
FI thinks we should invite our bosses, so I’m inviting mine! I think a lot of it also depends on “traditions” in your workplace. my boss has gotten invited to every one of his graduate students’ weddings, and I wouldn’t want to be the first one not to invite him.
since yours is a destination wedding, and those generally have a more intimate feel, I think your boss would understand if you didn’t invite them.