Post # 1
I was so excited that our invitations came in and loved the way they turned out. Well my parents are helping with catering (they own a catering company, least they can do). They owe my fiance and I money quite a bit they usedd it to pay for my sisters 15th birthday. They knew this money was part of the small savings we had for the wedding. They havent paid it back. Cut to the invitations I sent her a picture of them and shes pissed that I didnt put parents names on the invitations. Her reply was, “you forgot to put our names are you an orphan or what?”. I let her know we chose to just use together with their parents and not use their names. She never replied. Now I dont know how to feel. They never talk to me and act like I dont exist and now shes mad over this? Did I do the wrong thing?
Post # 3
No, at least I don’t think so. If you and your FI are paying for your wedding I think it’s acceptable to write “together with their parents” on the invitation, because they aren’t hosting! Hopefully she’ll just get over it…
Post # 4
Agree with the bee above. If you are paying, your parents have no say in the matter and your mom needs to get over it.
Post # 5
Your mom needs to get over it, she isn’t paying…and she needs to pay you back!
Post # 6
No…you did nothing wrong.
Parents names are listed on a wediding invitation if they are the hosts (e.g. PAY for the wedding.)
When the bride and groom PAY for the wedding it’s custom to word it: “Bride and groom together with their families.”
Post # 7
To my understanding, whoever is paying for/hosting the wedding should go on the invitation. If the couple is paying for the wedding, then it should only be your names on the invite
Post # 8
Thanks Bees I feel better. I just feel like everyhing I do they have something negative to say and get attitudes. Plus me and my fiance are footing 99% of the bill!
Post # 9
@Elizabeth_A: I can TOTALLY relate! My FI and I are footing the majority of the bill (my parents have chipped in some, FI’s mom has not) and FI’s dad is not in the picture. SO, I originally had the “together with their parents”, then my dad got upset-my mom was fine as she understood the situation. To make everyone happy, I had “Ms. Lavenderbride24 daughther of Mr. and Mrs. so and so” and “FI name son of Mrs. so and so” placed on them instead.
They came out nicely.
Post # 10
@Elizabeth_A: Nope. She’s not paying she doesn’t get to decide.
I did, “FFIL and FMIL request the honor of your presence to the marriage of their son FI to nelya8503…” because they are footing most of the bill.
Post # 11
I think you’re fine. Hopefully she’ll come around. Maybe show her other examples of invitations that have used similar wording? Sometimes people just don’t realize that things have changed…