Post # 1
So, when picking my bridal party I went with my my sister, 2 of my oldest/best friends, my Future Sister-In-Law and a friend I met within the past three years, and whom I’ve totally clicked with (and it helps that her husband and my fiance have hit it off since they met).
The thing is, I have another good friend whom I met about a year before the last bridesmaid. We used to hang out all the time, but with us changing jobs, moving (still in the same town, but not as close), and spending time with our SOs, we haven’t been seeing each other or talking as much. To the point where I decided not to ask her to be a bridesmaid- though she’ll still be invited to the wedding, shower, bachelorette party, etc.
I actually stood up in her wedding a couple years ago, and she’s a wonderful person. Recently, we’ve started hanging out regularly again. I’d love to have her be a part of the wedding- but we just can’t afford another person in the bridal party.
Is there something non-tacky/cheesy I could have her do, without adding to the Bridesmaids or having her be a Personal Attendant (that was my first thought, but then it’s kind of like “Hey, can you be at my beck and call all day?” and that’s not me at all, and I’d hate to do that to her).
Any help/advice would be much appreciated.
Post # 3
Could she do a reading at the wedding? or maybe a guest book attendant?
Post # 4
I’m in the almost the exact same situation, but with two of my uni friends. One is a bridesmaid, but I didn’t ask the other and I am worried that she will feel slighted. But we also can’t afford to add another person to the bridal party and we also don’t have the space—our Chapel is itty-bitty. So, I totally feel ya!
I’m going to ask her to do a reading for sure. But I would be interested in seeing other suggestions, too!
Post # 5
Just let her be a guest and enjoy herself! A reading, maybe. Please, please, do not ask her to be a guest book attendant, that is NOT an honor in any way shape or form! There is nothing wrong with having a good friend be just an invited guest. There have been plenty of times that I have helped (willingly) a friend plan a wedding quite a bit and never expected to be asked to be part of the wedding.
Post # 7
Is she an outgoing person? Maybe ask her to be your MC. That’s what I’ve done with a good friend of mine.
Post # 8
Thank you everyone! I think I will ask her to do a reading (highly appropriate, as we’re both librarians 😉 ). Great suggestions!
Post # 9
I think giving her a reading or maybe making her an usher-ette would be great. I honestly would rather be a reader than an attendant any day as I get to enjoy the wedding more!