Involved Groom

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just ask him when during the week he’d like to sit down with you to go over whatever needs to get decided. While you’re at it, ask him how he’d prefer to handle small details (texts like, “Ahh I’m at the craft store and they have the perfect XYZ for $0, should I get them?”) and if there are any tasks he’s interested to handle completely (e.g. transportation, music, men’s attire). 

Post # 3
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MissCoupon:  This probably wouldn’t work for everyone, but I actually just bounced questions off my DH as they came up.  So I ended up having one or two 5-minute wedding convos per day with him.  It didn’t seem to bother him…in fact, as I recall, the hour-long planning sessions that happened closer to the wedding day seemed to be worse for him.

Why don’t you try a few different methods and gauge his reaction from there?  He may not know what he prefers since you’re just beginning the planning process.

Post # 4
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

MissCoupon:  My DH wanted to be very involved but had never been to a wedding in the UK before so didn’t get half of what I was talking about. We discussed the big things together – the venue, photographer, where people would stay, seating plan, his and groomsmen suits etc, but everything else – colours, placecards, cake, flowers, I did with my family. He occasionally asked about stuff but otherwise was happy to leave me to it.

As you say, you need to sit down with him and maybe make a list of things to do and ask him which ones he wants to be involved in.

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