Post # 1
Hi, my fiance and I are planning a November 2012 wedding. I am very close with my family and my fiance’s family too. I want to involve my groom’s family in the planning process.
Here, let me explain the wedding party and my groom’s family.
Maid of Honor-Sister, Bridesmaids-Sister, Sister, Friend, Friend, Future Step-Sister-In-Law/Friend.
Groom has 4 sisters, mom and grandmother.
I don’t want to hurt any feels, I am very non-confrontational. So, what I would like to ask is if anyone has any suggestions of how to involve his family while not taking away from the special mother-daughter and sister moments? Such as: wedding dress shopping, looking at the venue, asking to doing things on the day of the wedding.
Post # 3
We got married in my hometown, so the first thing I did was invite DH’s parents for the weekend, so they could see the venue and be involved in visualizing stuff. My Mother-In-Law came with me for one of my fitting appointments (since we live closer to them than my parents), and her husband made us some signs and the photobooth. We definitely filled them in as we went along, and Mother-In-Law and my mother communicated pretty regularly too to help behind the scenes. I think as long as everyone is secure (i.e. I knew my mom wouldn’t be jealous at all if I included Mother-In-Law, and I knew she just wanted to help and wouldn’t try to take over), that it’s pretty easy to include everyone.
Post # 4
I find it’s easiest to keep dress & venue shopping allong with all the details about the wedding between me & mr Rugbee. We included his brother & sister in our wedding party so nobody felt left out but honestly, the more people you involve in actual wedding planning the longer & more painful the process becomes.
My advice: delegate to them & tell them about your decisions but don’t initiate discussion about what THEY think you should do cause it will only be time consumming and full of conflict.
Post # 5
My Future Mother-In-Law has gone with my mom, my Fiance and I everywhere. FI didn’t go look at dress but Future Mother-In-Law did. His sisters are bridesmaids. His nephews are junior groomsmen and ring bearer, his dad is Best Man. His mom LOVES going with us. Everytime we ask if she wants to go somewhere she jumps at the chance.
Post # 6
I don’t have a sister, so Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law (who is also a BM) will be coming along with my mom and I on dress appointments. I’d also like all 4 of us to shop for the MOB/MOG dresses together. As for everything else: my family, FI’s family, and obviously ourselves are paying for the wedding. So whatever they’re paying for, they’re attending meetings for. My parents are paying for the venue, but Future Mother-In-Law also came along to look at it. It’s worked out great so far! 🙂