Post # 1
I’m a little lost how to involve my son in our wedding. My FI isn’t his dad but he loves the kid like he’s his own. Obviously we’re going to be a family after the marriage and I wanted to involve my son in the ceremony.
The problem: My son will be 5 when we get married. He’ll be the ring bearer and I love that idea. But I was thinking how to do something like a sand pillar etc to symbolize the joining of the three of us.
We’re not having a religious ceremony. The sand idea is something we would put on a shelf and never look at again. So I was hoping someone had any ideas to help me involve my son. Like I said… I’m sooo lost.
Post # 3
I have 2 kids and we are doing a sand ceremony as well and each will have their favorite color for the sand. My FI is also saying a commitment to them and putting a necklace around there neck. My kids are 13 (boy) and 18 (girl) and they could not be more excited to be involved in a special way dedicated specifically for them.
Post # 4
I saw a wedding on TV, where the groom spoke during the ceremony to the child of his new wife, in this case she was a little girl & before the exchange of rings, he gave her a necklace – it was so moving! So while this isn’t a visual aspect of the ceremony, it can be very heartfelt with just words.
Also, I went to another wedding where the bride’s 4 year old son walked her down the aisle, also very moving.
Post # 5
My best friend remarried last fall and they did a sand ceremony with her daughter. They also did something very different- her daughter (then 9) was the bridesmaid at the wedding and she stopped halfway down the isle and her new stepfather walked down to meet her and walk her the rest of the way. Additionally, her new husband gave her daughter a beautiful small locket that had photos of the three of them as a new family. It was very sweet and meant a lot to her.
Post # 6
Ive also seen children get rings in a similar way as mentioned about lockets and necklaces.
Post # 7
My mother got remarried two years ago, and there were 4 children on her side and 3 on the other. from ages 5 to 30. We had 9 different colors of sand and we filled a vase with them. It’s a pretty rainbow, and now is on display in our house. 🙂 I loved the idea, and it was also before sand got really popular. It made sense for us because we were all becoming one family, and it wasn’t just about the two of them.
Post # 8
I was thinking the sand thing would be a fall back. I think it’s a cute idea but we really wanted to do something he would enjoy. My kid’s difficult. LoL
Post # 9
@GlynnBugg13: We are a family of six I have two sons from a previous marriage, he has a daughter from a previous marriage, and we have one together. 10 yr old son walking me down, 6 yr old son ring bearer, 5 yr old daughter flower girl, 18 month old girl “here comes the bride sign” we have a embroidery hoop that I decorated in the wedding colors and each of us has a vintage key that we are going to attach to this hoop, it will be the master keys to our family symbolizing that without one the others are lost, plus a circle is never ending, LOL I am still working on the wording, but this will happen during the ceremony after the vows. I made a wreath that I will attach this hoop to that will hang up either in our house or on our door. I bet you can come up with something creative.
Post # 10
I did a wedding last fall that was exactly that — Mother and Son joining with a new Man. The kid was involved (but not toooo involved, you still want the day to be about you two) in the mini-photo-session and held his mom’s hand during the ceremony. After the fact the groom gave the kid a huge hug, a amazingly moving little speech, and then a gift (matchbox car race track set) which sen the kid into a massive tizzy.
But anyway, the reason I jumped to post was to say that I actually really like our sand ceremony stuff. Sure, its’ on a shelf but it’s a memory… the same way a photo in a frame on a shelf would be. I treasure it. (my wife an I also made a deal that if either of us ever wants to split, the person that wants it needs to split the grains of sand… in theory giving us time to think about what we were doing. ha!)