Post # 1
Hi bees 🙂
I’ve been a serious lurker on these boards ever since wedding planning began. I figured now is as good a time as any to actually join in, now that my free time isn’t full of dresses and shoes. (Well, wedding dresses and shoes, anyway. 😉 …)
The wedding was only a couple of weeks ago but we have been together for a total of about 6 years now and I’m feeling very ready to start a family. Joining up on here really appealed to me because there’s a lot of feelings and thoughts I’d really rather not share with family and friends, sometimes it just feels a little too close to home to get that personal with people you can’t avoid.
I guess my problem is that hubby and I haven’t been “careful” for a long time. (I was on BC when I was 16-18 but I hated a lot of the side effects I experienced and after trying multiple types, I ditched it altogether.) Then condoms made a brief appearance but we pretty quickly ditched those too and for years pretty much solely relied on the trusty pull out method.
Now all I hear is people saying how unreliable that actually is and it makes me wonder why I never got pregnant. And it’s stirring up a lot of fear in me now that I WANT to get pregnant. I haven’t been charting or anything and have always had pretty irregular periods, but for the last few months they have been like clockwork for the first time ever, so I thought it’d be a great month to just go for it and see what happens.
Is it irrational for me to be worried when it hasn’t even been a month yet?
Thanks for reading, bees. It got longer than I thought!
Post # 3
@MrsSunshine: I think a lot of us had this fear even before we were TTC, not just the first month of it! You are not alone =) Good luck and baby dust to you!! Congrats on the wedding.
Post # 4
@ChuckNorris: Thank youuu 🙂 How long do people usually TTC before there’s any good cause for concern?
Post # 5
@MrsSunshine: Congrats about your wedding….Don’t start t worry for at least a year of trying.
I actually found the more people stress about it the longer it takes. Just enjoy the fun of making the baby 🙂
Post # 6
@russian_doll: I’ve heard that too. And I guess it doesn’t help that I’m a walking panic attack about most things. I think I’m gonna get along well on these boards, and at least I don’t have to scare hubby with all my crazy woman talk. 😉
Post # 7
@MrsSunshine: Exactly why I love this site lol
Post # 8
You are not alone in that fear! Here’s hoping it is unfounded for all of us!
Post # 9
@MrsSunshine: Most people say one year. I knew something was wrong because I had been charting my temperatures and other fertility signs, so I waited six months. Sure enough, there is something wrong! I wouldn’t have known if I had just “done it naturally.” I highly recommend charting – if you don’t think you’d stress out to much about it. Check out the Charter’s thread, and maybe pick up a copy of Taking Charge of your Fertility if no go this first month?
Post # 10
I strongly second ChuckNorris! Charting helps you understand so much about what is going on. By looking at your chart you can be very reassured that things appear to be normal even if you do have irregular periods, or if things aren’t quite normal it gives you a great idea of what is going on that you can use to begin the discussion with your doctor without spending a whole year trying.
Post # 11
@MrsSunshine: I feel ya 🙂 We are only two months TTC, and I wouldn’t consider them successful or that we were TTC since I have learned so much and made mistakes. At the very least begin charting and read as ChuckNorris recommended. You will probably have a lot of questions and I honestly think you need a few months to understand charting and to see what is normal, some people even get lucky their first few months!!
GL!! This is a great group 🙂
Post # 12
I had the same fears as you, actually! I am 23, never used birth control, and never used condoms with my husband. We’ve been using the pull out method for almost 3 years now, and haven’t had any scares. I have heard that, as long as the guy is really in-tune with his body (doesn’t cum on accident and always knows when he is about to) that the reliability is actually pretty good.
According to Planned Parenthood(http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm) “Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly.” so it seems to be 96% effective.
I think a lot of people say it is very unreliable to justify staying on bc, or to discourage teens from using POM, haha. So don’t worry! 🙂
Post # 13
@MrsSunshine: My ob-gyn said that after 6 months if we still had not conceived, she would have us both in for testing. Although I’ve also heard that number of TTC months before concern as being a full year after starting the process.
‘Taking Charge of your Fertility’ is a great book! I was recommended it by my best friend who’s a med student.It’s really great at explaining the whole TTC process and helps in understanding the mechanics of what it takes to get pregnant.
Although some people are ‘fertile mrytles’ and can get pregnant on their first go using birth control- most women don’t get pregnant that easily. It’s possible- but not probable. That being said you’re probably 100% okay in TTC someday.
Best of luck and welcome to the bee 🙂