Post # 1
I know there have been posts like this before, but from my search I noticed most of them were older, so I wanted to restart one.
My fears are not being able to intermix my musical tastes with FH’s, that no one will show up, that people will be super bored and leave really early because there’s no alcohol or that I will forget some majorly huge detail. I’m also worried that FH won’t like anything I decide on since we’re trying to make big decisions together, but his work schedule is not going to allow us to do everything together.
I have pretty gnarly anxiety issues and I stay relatively stressed at all times, but the closer it gets to March, the more knotted my stomach gets. 12 months left to plan. 9 of those months I’ll be in school and so will FH. I honestly don’t know what kind of mess I’ll be in in a few months.
Post # 3
@SouthernGirl: to me your fears seem normal hahaha. i have those fears and also really irrational fears
“what if the priest dies before my wedding” “what if i get a leg chopped off by the speed boat propellor on that snorkelling trip im going on” etc etc
its not like i spend all my time thinking about this stuff. but itll pop up randomly
Post # 4
I’m worried about a few things, but I guess it’s quite normal.
1. I’ve had thoughts about NOBODY showing up. I serioulsy hope that doesn’t happen!
2. That the wedding won’t look like the money that we’re putting into it.. or will look “cheap”.
Post # 5
I totally understand. I have a lot of the same fears – people not showing up, people not having fun, people leaving super early.
I’m also really worried that I won’t have things organized well and people won’t know where to go or what to do. One really weird worry I have is about walking down the aisle…how am I going to figure out how to time it? Also, who will open the church doors for my Dad and I? Just logisitics!
Post # 6
@newname_99: I think the irrational part comes from the amount of stress I’m under right now. I don’t spend ALL my time thinking about it, but a friend of mine is getting married tomorrow (JOP wedding) and it’s made me seriously question why I even decided I wanted a more traditional wedding because hers has been so easy. They just decided to get married, so they’re doing it tomorrow. I’m worried about finding someone to officiate too, or that I won’t be able to get my venue, but I feel like those are more normal than worrying no one will show up. I also worry that someone will lose our rings, or they’ll be forgotten…
@jenilynevette: Me too. I really don’t have many friends and I’m not close to much of my family. I worry that out of the 50 or so invites I’ll send out, that no one will show up, and I’ll have wasted money for a venue when I could have just eloped and saved money.
@LilacViolet: I am afraid of organization. Luckily, FH is really good at that part, so I’m hoping he’ll help me out there. I tend to overanalyze EVERYTHING, so this wedding planning experience will be quite an adventure.
Post # 7
I can relate to this thread! I had a terrible dream that my FI had a heart attack right after we were done taking pictures after the ceremony! Totally irrational but I was super supportive when FI said he wanted to lose weight and eat better before the wedding.