(Closed) Irrational feelings or no?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
2641 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so sorry.  You’d like to think immediate family will make the trip.  Unfortunately you’re not the first to post on here that a close family member wasn’t making it to their OOT wedding.

I think it’s understandable that you are disappointed.  Soundsl ike your mom had higher priorities than your wedding.  However, I certainly don’t havethe whole story.  Perhaps you don’t either.  Have you asked your mom and grandmother about why they can’t make it?  I mean tell them how you’re disappointed, and explain that you really thought they’d make the trip.  See what they say…

I don’t know how to excuse your mom. Although, she doesn’t sound like she’s been very dependable in the past.  Your dad, I understand.  Grandma, I don’t know.  She sounds generally supportive.  So I’d be inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Post # 5
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67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

First of all we are date twins YAY!

I don’t think you’re being irrational in the least. I don’t care if this is your 25th wedding… you deserve to have the respect of your closest family members to be there!!!

They still have time to change their minds. Have the official invitations gone out yet?

 

Post # 6
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t think you’re irrational for being hurt, but do think it best not to make further inquiries as to why they can’t afford to come.  Forcing other people to justify how they spend their money seldom leads to good feelings.

People of previous generations don’t always see second weddings the way younger folks do, and that may be coloring your grandmother’s decision.  That’s not a lot of fun to consider, but I wouldn’t rule it out.  Before pushing her further on the subject I would ask myself whether I was prepared to hear that sort of thing baldly stated.

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