Post # 1
We’ve been a Sunday wedding from the start. Cost is obviously a factor, but I’m kind of attached to the idea of having a “wedding weekend” that culminates in a wedding for our out of town guests. We can do something with just the wedding party on Friday night, then do touristy stuff all day Saturday with anyone who wants to come, have a nice relaxed rehearsal/meet&greet on Saturday evening, and then finish up with a Sunday wedding.
90% of our guest list is out of town. Of the out of towners, it’s heavily skewed toward the East coast. We’ve asked our out of town family if they think they’ll be able to attend on a Sunday, and we got waaaay more “yeses” than we thought we would get, even if it was on a Saturday. Nobody said it would be a problem.
Our friends are almost entirely grad students who have said that they have quite a bit of summer flexibility. They also said a Sunday is fine.
I thought about changing to a Saturday, but really, who is going to leave on Saturday morning, arrive Saturday afternoon, and fly out on Sunday? Nobody is going to fly for 12 hours to spend less than a day in Seattle. I can’t imagine a scenario where people who attend don’t take a 3-day weekend. Saturday-Monday flights are also cheaper than Friday-Sunday flights, so it’s slightly more convenient for the guests who plan on a long weekend.
There are some people who will not be able to afford to come, no matter when we have our wedding. I don’t think the Saturday-Sunday difference will be the determining factor for anyone and nobody has indicated that it will be. I’m just so stressed about looking like a jerk. Arg.
Post # 3
I was in the same boat and went ahead with the Sunday. We also have a lot of out-of-town friends. They’re looking forward to taking a day off. 😉 Realistically, even if we’d have had it on a Saturday most of them would have needed to take time off to travel on Friday so it’s just as well. If you’re worried, maybe you can plan something earlier in the day so people can leave after if needed?
Oh – and Sunday discounts are kind of awesome. Another plus is that you can wait until the last minute and still find vendors!
Post # 4
@jdhall89: It sounds like you have done your research and know what will work for your social circle. Personally, I hate Friday and Sunday weddings and I would never go. I have work the next day, and that’s where my mind is. Sunday would be my day to travel back home, not attend the wedding. I also do think it comes across as very cheap, but I understand that some people have very fixed budgets. However, that’s just me. If it works for your group, why not.
Post # 5
@fallsgirl: Yeah, we seem to be in the same boat. In all honestly, it’s a destination wedding anyways. It’s super inconvenient, and that’s lousy, but it’s hardly our fault that our parents moved far away from their families!
I’m hoping to take our Sunday discount (3k venue and catering only) and turn it into a hosted/paid-for food tour of the city for our guests. I’d rather provide people with fun activities all weekend than spend it all on 6 hours of wedding!
Post # 6
I had an “inconvenient” wedding too: It was on a Friday and it was in an area that was 200+ miles from where my extended family lives.
Some of my family DID complain about the distance. I eventually found out that one of my aunts was VERY resentful and bitter about my decision to have the wedding far from her, and there are still bad feelings over that.
However, nobody seemed to be bothered by the fact it was on a Friday.
I did find that a number of the people who acted super enthusiastic about the wedding at first and acted like they wouldn’t miss it for the world ended up backing out later because “something came up” or because they decided the distance was just too much. Be prepared that at least some of the folks who are currently saying “Oh yeah I would totally go to a Sunday wedding!” might end up backtracking on that as it comes closer to being a reality.
Post # 7
@saffy: Yeah, I definitely don’t predict that all of those “yeses” are well-thought-out. I’m super touched that people are enthusiastic about attending my wedding, but hauling your spouse and two toddlers across the country is just not realistic for a lot of them at this point.