- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Let the venting commence…
FH has been working out of town the last two weeks. When he comes home on the weekend he is picking up side work, so I only see him Friday, Saturday, and Sunday evening. He doesn’t NEED to work, but promised a friend of his he would help him out and doesn’t want to let him down. I understand.
This weekend I’m driving three hours to my home town to go to dinner with my brother for his birthday. The plan was for FH and I to drive out Saturday and stay the night with my parents. Sunday I have a hair appointment. My stylist happens to be my best friend and Maid/Matron of Honor who I don’t get to see nearly enough. FH was going to play a round of golf with his brother (who lives in my home town). Win-win. Well, that was before he told me he had committed this weekend to working with the friend he doesn’t want to let down. He said he would talk to the friend and see if he had to work both days. I told him that is fine, I just need to know what to plan on so I can adjust the plans. FH never got back to me, kept dragging his feet, telling me he wasn’t sure. I told him to please let me know because I do not want to flake out at the last minute. FH has a history of either not committing to plans until the VERY last second and assuming that everyone can accommodate his last minute change, or flaking at the last minute. I’m tired of both and am trying hard to make a habit of not doing this. This is why I continued to stress all week why I needed an answer so I could change the plans if need be.
So, today I’m talking to FH and he says he can’t go. I say that’s fine, but my appointment is set for Sunday (I know she’s my friend but it’s still a booked appointment through the salon, and it’s a slot that she’s holding for me when she could book another customer). I told him that I was going to stick with the original plan, and he got upset. We ended up getting into an argument about it.
I’m I wrong to not change the plans? I’m so tired of flaking at the last minute! I get that he wants to see me, and I want to see him too, but I asked him daily to let me know what was going on. I’m so frustrated that he wants me to change plans at the last minute again, and that he doesn’t understand why I don’t want to. I think he is taking it as ‘she doesn’t want to see me’ but that is not the case at all.
Sorry for the long vent, I’m just irritated right now!