Post # 1
I’m new here and i don’t want to be judged by this but here is my situation.
I had the most glorious proposal But i found out how much he spent on the ring and i am really irriated he spent 8,000 and it’s 1 ct full ring but the center is only .50 ct. I know that i should be thankful for anything and everything but i just don’t get how a man can not do his research he bought it from a mall retail store and so that is why it was so high.
I am a researcher i research everything and him on the other hand didn’t. I am almost mad at him that he spent that much money on it. I mean we could have that money now for our wedding. Why don’t some men research!
I just know i can upgrade later but then everyone is going to think i am a horrible person.
This is something i just needed to let off my chest.
Any Advice will help, Thanks
Post # 3
Do they have a return policy? Maybe you can get your money back and buy something more economical from bluenile or a wholesaler?
Post # 4
u are def gonna get shit for this lol. i totally hear you though. if it was an impulsive purchase and the money wasn’t spent wisely, id be mad too. you wanna get the BEST and the MOST bang for ur buck
Post # 5
I think this is maybe a learning situation where the two of you can sit down and talk about your styles of spending money. It won’t be the last time you freak out because he doesn’t do research before making a purchase – so maybe the two of you could put together a positive game plan for how to approach large purchases in the future?
Post # 6
Yes, he didn’t do his research and yes you should be thankful for anything and everything. Be grateful, put a smile on your face and move on.
Post # 7
If you feel comfortable talking about it with him then I would. It’s good to discuss how money will be spent in the future. I completely understand that you are happy to have the ring but that you wish he had spent the money more wisely. I picked my own ring for this very reason (still waiting for it grrr…)! Good luck and try to just be happy that you have a ring!! Lucky girl!
Post # 8
Try talking to him about it! Let him know those mall stores are a rip-off – reiterate that while it means so much to him, you want him to get the most bang for his buck, or something. If he seems offended by that than just drop it and move on 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I think this could be a sensitive topic… which is why I did the research and the cost comparisons and picked out the ring! 😉 You probably can’t return it and get any money back or a better deal, so, since you’re most likely stuck with it, try your best to move on from your irritation. You’re engaged! Just imagine he spent 50% of that on the ring and 50% on becoming your fiance. 😉
BUT I would have the conversation, in general, that it’s best to do a lot of homework before making a big ticket purchase. Maybe that will become more of your job in the relationship…
Post # 10
Thank you all you are really helping me to move past this! I do feel very lucky to have found the man of my dreams. And i agree that researching is probably going to be my area throughout the years, and i am okay with that. But to him he thought he bought the best thing in the world, i want to bring it up but i know it would kill him inside. So i think maybe i should just talk to you all about it.
We can’t return:(
Post # 11
Oooh I just assumed you would be able to return 🙁 That sucks. Well, at least you have an e-ring! And he loves you and wants to spend his life with you and that’s what matters the most
Post # 12
Wow, that’s a little less than my whole wedding budget. I don’t think it’s a touchy subject. He told you the cost right? So it’s open for discussion. If he didn’t do his research on this large purchase, what makes you think he would for another large purchase. You are getting married and should be able to openly communicate about anything. Yes, it was a gift, but it’s a pretty big gift that he basically got ripped off on. I would approach it carefully, but I would say something.
Post # 13
Some stores will let your return your jewelry with a full refund within thirty days. At least that was the case with the store my FI purchased my ring from. This is kind of a tricky situation though. I know my FI would be very sad and upset if I mentioned wanting to get a different engagement ring, but if you think he would be ok with it just ask and see if you can get a refund to purchase a different ring at a more comfortable price point.
Post # 14
Sorry for the off topic, but…
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Post # 15
@ATP2011: lol I was going to say that. lol
Some stores will let you return it and then use the credit towards something else.
Post # 16
What is the quality of the diamond? I know that since he bought it at a store like that it may not be great, but it’s not really fair to jump to the conclusion that he overpaid unless you know for sure that he didn’t. For example, a flawless .25ct will cost way more than a 2ct included diamond. Do you know the stats on the stone? Have it appraised somewhere else and see what they say the ring is worth before you freak out about what it cost. If, after that, it’s clear that he did actually overpay, take it back if you can.