Irritated with DH (VENT)

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@megz06:  This! Don’t do a task if you’re only going to half-ass it, seriously.” 

We have two dogs and girl I get it, I totally do. Your DH was thoughtless and inconsiderate of both you and the dog. Not acceptable.

The thing is, and please don’t hate me for saying this, men often don’t see the bigger picture. They forget or overlook the little things, the small duties, the important things that aren’t specifically discussed. Yes, a dog needs to use the potty of course, duh! But your DH did exactly what you had discussed in the limited timeframe and anything else added well that wasn’t on “the list.”

Here’s my suggestion. After you have had your moments to stew in his thoughtlessness make a time tonight to discuss the situation reminding him that you cannot think of all the little things for him. The dog has needs, much like people, and that he is 50% owner of the dog and is just as responsible to seeing that ALL the dog’s needs are met when the dog is in his care. This includes pooping/peeing/food/walks/vet trips etc. It is going to be hard for him which to us women is so foreign. I can work, book appointments, answer questions all while balancing a ball on my head (in theory of course) but my DH can do one thing and one thing only. Just keep reminding him and eventually he will get it but if he is anything like my DH it will take time and A LOT of situations like this one.

 

Post # 4
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@megz06:  Poor puppy.  I would make sure that all appointments in the future are on the weekend so they can be less rushed and less likely to overlap with your lunch breaks to avoid future stress for all of you.

And good lord he’s doubled in size in 3 months!?!

Post # 5
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428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Treejewel19:  Exactly this!

Men have to be told EXACTLY what to do (at least ALL the ones I’ve known.)

 

Case in point: I sent DH a recipe because he wanted to make bread when he was working from home one day.

A few hours later, he texted me and asked why the bread wasn’t rising like mine normally does.

 

We eventually found out, with some sleuth work, that I didn’t mention that when he added the warm water to the yeast in the bowl, that he had to stir it together. So he basically had a cake of yeast at the bottom that didn’t get incorporated into the dough.

 

……

 

Wow. 😀 I still make fun of him for that. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I have to agree with @Treejewel19:  He did what he was supposed to do – take the dog to the vet – and that’s it.  I bet ya he wasn’t thinking at all about having to walk the dog or even about how you would get penalized for getting back to work late. At that very moment when he got back from the vet, all he was thinking about was how he has to high tail it to get back to his job on time. Inconsiderate, yes, but not on purpose. Sit down and have a talk with him tonight, remind him of what happens to you when you go outside your allotted lunch time. Anyway, sorry you’re having a poopy week, it makes every poop that happens worse when there are a lot of poops. 😛

Post # 9
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Minnow:  LMAO! Oh gosh that is hilarious! My DH wanted to “make” cookies one night using the pre-made dough. I told him everything to do except take the cookies apart. We had one GIANT block of cookies. I mean common sense right? Apparently not.

Post # 11
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1634 posts
Bumble bee

 @megz06:  This is totally something my FI would do… they just dont have the same amount of forethought. Sometimes I feel like I treat him like a toddler and that I should just let him figure it out, but then it always falls on me to fix it when he forgets some small but important detail. Yay for spoon-feeding gornw men! lol

@Minnow:  Maybe thats why my one attempt at home-made buns came out like honckey pucks?!?!

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@megz06:  Awwww I totally understand why you’d be frustrated. Men sometimes just don’t think, lol. However, I think you’re doing the right thing by venting on here, because this really isn’t worth having an argument or ruining your whole eve together. Once you’ve calmed down, explain to him why that frustrated you, and make sure you tell him that you appreciate what he did do. I’m sure he had ago of intentions. Coming down on him might make him feel as though he’s not appreciated. Hope your day gets better! 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee

“ago of” was suppose to be “good” Anyone else have horrible luck with autocorrect on here?? Lol

Post # 15
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Busy bee

@megz06:  LOL!!! I hear ya, I’ve had moments like that with my guy too! Totally understand being protective over your puppy, I’m glad you are. I have a 13 yr old cat and a 2 yr old Rottweiler, and they are my babies! 

Post # 16
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1349 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@megz06:  Oh I feel your pain.  My husband does things like this too.  Totally well intentioned and totally trying to help me but in the end it usually ends up making a lot more work for me!!

ETA:  It doesn’t ALWAYS make more work for me, just sometimes!!

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