Post # 1
So I have a friend who is also a professional DJ and has offered his services at my wedding reception at a very low cost (friend discount). We get along ok, except once in a while he acts extremely self centered. If I say or do one thing wrong he explodes and becomes very dramatic. He also likes to take control of situations and can be a drama queen. Lately he’s been increasingly insensitive to me and I’ve decided I wont take his attitude anymore. I thought about just not having him as a DJ and settling for using my iPod for music, and inviting him as a guest but anytime we go to an event, he literally STEALS the spotlight. He is also a choreographer and takes advantage of any sort of dancing event he can. He’s also always telling me how “everyone he meets instantly loves him because of his inviting personality and attractiveness.” Yeah, right.
Now, I’m worried about not inviting him at all, because I know I will never hear the end of it. Like ever. This guy has problems and I’m starting to wonder why I ever became friends with him in the first place. I mean, he wouldn’t talk to me for almost a week because I didn’t invite him to my family-only birthday dinner this year.
I don’t want him to ruin my wedding reception by being dramatic or compromising any special moments I may have with my family or newlywed husband. Not to mention he has a personality about as inviting as a cactus at times. Am I being overly sensitive or am I in the right to consider not inviting him? What should I do??
Post # 3
@hisluckygirl22: Ehhhhh. This is kind of a toughy!
It is nice of him to give you a friend discount, but is it worth it? Someone like this makes me nervous, I’ve dealt with his personality types before and for me they’ve never ended well. I would have to cut this man out of my life, but that is just me!
Ask yourself; what is the worst that can happen? Think about it and decide if the worst was able to happen….could you deal with it? Would this be something you can get over with? Could you still be friends? Would your wedding happiness be dampered by his actions? Then ask yourself could you come back from the worst possible situation? If you answer no then I think it would be best to either hire a Dj or simply do an iPod wedding.
I am doing an iPod wedding and I am enjoying it, I love coming up with our music and getting my hands dirty in this part of the wedding planning process. It would be a lot easier then dealing with his uncertinaty.
Maybe you could talk to him about your fears if you feel comfortable enough doing that? Or would he blow up on you? I think you are being overly sensitive because this is YOUR wedding and you have an idea of how you’d like it to go…..NICELY! lol. and this guy has the potential to cause problems, I think you’re being protective which is perfectly alright.
In my opinion I’d just go down a different path by choosing another Dj or doing your iPod idea and tell him that you and your fiance really want to build your own musical experience on your own terms.
Post # 4
@JoJoDahling: Thank you, I actually chose all the music I want to play during the reception (it is pretty fun!). It’s just that he has his own music to add which I’m very fond of and I know it would add a little more ‘pop’ because he does all sorts of remixes. But you’re right, I need to balance my options and think about the best outcome.
Post # 5
Sounds like it may be time to cut ties, you say you don’t even know why you became friends to begin with….? I wouldn’t invite him.
also, I am doing an iPod wedding too:)
Post # 6
I would cut ties. It’s your day and he doesn’t seem like the type to understand that.
Post # 7
Do the iPod thing and don’t invite him. Nothing good can come of that situation, and to be honest, it already sounds like you don’t want him there,
Post # 8
Another vote for the iPod… life’s too short to deal with drama and drama queens. Totally not worth your time to stress about his behavior.
Post # 9
1. The best advice I’ve recieved in my planning process is don’t use your friends. If they mess up at all then it can cause a rift in your friendship and it just isn’t worth it.
2. I have a friend who is a show stealer. She literally would not stop getting in pictures with my friend (who was the bride) while people were just trying to get pictures of the bride! She’s not invted to my wedding…
Post # 10
If your wedding is not until June 2014, you have a lot of time to “drift apart” from this person and eventually you would have so little to do with him, you wouldn’t have to invite him.