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SO and I were long-distance for nine months, and it royally sucked. I used to feel sorry for myself all the time and not realize it was really hard for him, too. It's natural to push each other away at first because you're just getting used to the idea of being apart and you're trying to protect yourselves, but nip this in the bud or you won't last. 

We made time for "dates" over the phone and the Internet and treated them as if we were meeting up somewhere so we wouldn't ditch each other. It's easy to think, "Oh, it's just a Skype date. I'll go out tonight and we'll do it tomorrow." Make sure to make time for each other and you can make it work.

Good luck! 

I'm prob not the best person to give advice but I wanted to tell you, I feel the same way. DH is moving in less than a month and I already notice myself getting upset when he decided to do anything without me but I know that is irrational. I have decided to not talk about him moving and really just avoid the subject as much as possible for the time being. When it comes up with friends, I make a joke and then change subjects. It's not easy but I guess we'll figure it out when the tiem comes. I also keep telling myself it'S not forever.

It's totally, totally normal!!!

DH and I are long distance with the military and before he left for basic, we went through a few weeks of being irritated with each other.  I would get mad at him over the dumbest stuff (the way he drove, not hearing me when I was talking, the way he CHEWED... haha :) )

I realized that I was trying to push him away because the pain of knowing he was leaving was just too much.  But, then the irritation and space between us was no better, so we talked about it and both made a concerted effort to be open and honest with each other about what we were feeling and anticipating.

In a sense, you go through stages of grief upon separation, because you're mourning the loss of how things were.  The best advice I have, from having gone through it, is to try to not miss him while he's here, then when he leaves, give yourself a few days (or weeks) to cry, mourn, get it out of your system... then get over it and move on!! 

You need to find activities that you enjoy, and it's a lot more fun to call your hunny with stories of all you're doing instead of "babe, I'm just sitting here and I am MISERABLE without you!!!"  He is going through the same thing, the same pain, and the same feelings of loss, so use the fact that you're BOTH going through it to draw you closer.

Oh, and also, write letters to each other!!  It's super romantic, even if you're able to call everyday.  Right now, DH can't call me except at very limited intervals, but getting and sending letters helps tremendously.  Plus, it's super cute to read sweet things he's written!