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Definitely too far away for friends and probably family to really be invested yet...my friends started to get really excited like 2 to 3 months before, at which point I was already so over the wedding lol. I think it's great that you're being so rational about it and not getting upset...the truth is that no one cares about our wedding as much as we do!
If they've already gotten married, it may just be that they are over the whole "OMG YAY WEDDING" phase of their lives. I think I was way more excited about weddings before I got to plan my own. But now, i've kind of gotten it out of my system. Most of my family/friends didn't stay up to date on what was happening with the planning. Mostly it was my mom, and my other friend that was also getting married, and then the occasional question from other people throughout the process. Nobody will be as into your wedding as you are!
my immediate family is still really excited im 7.5 months away from my date!!!! we are hving a 16 month engagment and my friends are beyond jealous so they have not been supportive at all. excet one friend of mine which she was really mean to me when we first annouced our engagment sating taht we are dumb and just rushing everything ( my fiance and i have been together for 3.5 years already and add on 16 month engagment how do you figuare we are rushng anything. but now she just announced her engagement last week and they are getting married in NOV!!!!!! they met on flippin myspace and have dated for a year but he has been over seas and theyve seen each 2 times!!!!
Once November December and the holiday family filled months are over after the New Year brace yourself bc people are gonna be totally in to your wedding and asking you all sorts of questions. We got engaged on 12/12 and had a 10 months engagement as well. Right away people were excited for us but it was smack in the middle of Xmas and New Years. Once January came our family and friends were totally into asking us questions about things. Now we're 9 days away 
Enjoy the engagement now, every second of it before you know it you're gonna be deep in planning mode 
@jackie-o: Oh congrats on your soon to be wedding! How exciting!!
My wedding is Oct. 11 and not everyone is super into it, but there are some key players already. My Man of Honor is going dress shopping with me, my mom, and grandma next week. I've had questions about colors from immediate family memebers and MOH and some friends. My sisters have been into looking around for bridesmaid dresses. And most people have been more interested in when, where, and what accomodations we have set up. (we live in a popular tourist town, so hotels have to be booked fairly early) Other than that, I've just been doing most of it on my own with FI.
My wedding is Aug 13th and everybody is contributing when needed. All my BMs (but one) are coming into town to go dress shopping next month, when they see things I might like they email me, my mom and sister are maybe a little overboard on the excitment, but all in all... the energy is good at this point.
I'm not overwhelming any one of them though, I might email one with this dress and another with this bouquet to keep everyone involved, but I don't expect them all to care about everything.
Good luck planning, I'm having a blast planning right now!
No one even acknowledged the fact that I was getting married until about two weeks before when they needed information. Well i guess that isn't 100% fair since I did have 2 showers and a bach party, but no one asked about the details at all.
I would expect interest and excitement to pick up after the holidays, especially if you're going to be visiting family who will be seeing the ring for the first time, etc.
Have you chosen your bridal party yet?
Yeah I can barely get my friends to get their bridesmaid dresses. I think they just feel like they still have a lot of time.
i'd say too far. my entire engagement will be less than 8 months!
Everyone was super excited when we got engaged, then interest fell off very sharply! You have to remember, you're the one getting married. For everyone else it's a celebration, but not something they think about daily!
@teaadntoast: I have, but I am not going conventional exactly. What I mean is they arent walking down the aisle or have to wear the same dress. They have coined themselves the Wedding Fun Committee, haha.
for the most part, people besides my husband and i were involved in a kind of "as needed" way, except when the details closely involved them (like, my mom figuring out what she was going to wear, for example, or bridesmaids emailing dress ideas). people were excited and happy for us, but in terms of actual planning, it was mostly the two of us, until we got much closer to the date, and i didn't expect more than that. i mean, people responded to emails and calls about specifics, like my brother and sil helped me evaluate photographers by looking at blogs i sent them, but for the most part no one was proactively jumping in to help. in part, i think that's because we were really gung-ho and knew what we wanted, so they were following our lead. which really is how it should be, i think; no one's going to care as much as you and your fi do :)
ETA: that's actually probably not a totally fair description--my moh and mom wanted to help more than they did, i think. but it was mostly a "let me know how can i help" attitude, and we had things pretty under control
Honestly? I think 10 months is really too far away for anyone to be excitied about it. Two major holidays are coming up and August is basically three more seasons away. I bet your friends will be excitied in the spring. Don't harrass everyone.
@Miss Tattoo:I havent been harassing anyone, swear! I was just wondering really. You know how you get so excited about something and just assume everyone will feel the same way.
Unfortunately, they won't care until things are actually set or reserved. Until I bought my dress, no one even asked me about it, but once I had the dress, I guess it became more "real" to them. Then, after the venue was booked, everyone got excited and starting asking if what they could do to help, when we could go dress shopping, etc. It will get better and people will start to care more.
One thing I did do in the early stages was have a get together with a few BM's. We drank wine, looked at bridal magazines, and a bunch of other wedding type stuff. Maybe suggest that to your BM's or good friends. It will be a good reason to have a little get together and get all your wedding gushing out in the open. :)
@moderndaisy: I'm glad you shared that. I wasn't going to post here because that has been my experience so far and frankly I am a little embarrassed by it.
HardyPooleParty: I'm sure your family and friends will start getting excited about things soon though!
@HardyPooleParty: I was going to say that if you feel the need for a bit of wedding love you can always let your bridesmaids know. Even if it's just a brief chat to talk about schedules because you want someone to come look at dresses with you, etc.
Yeah, too far away for it to register. After the inital engagement was over and we started working on a date, people just lost all interest. Of course, we had to change the date for various reasons from December 17, 2011 to May 2012.
I personally don't expect anyone to be interested until right before, which is how things usually work with my family. It'll be 3 months before the wedding and then all of a sudden, people will want to help.
I don't expect to have more than 1 or 2 people who give a crap enough to talk about wedding planning.
My cousin's getting married in December, and I have another friend getting married in May 2012 also, so those two will be the only people that I will be able to share anything with.
I completely agree with hilsy85 that is the exact same thing that happened to me and she couldn't be anymore right. It's a big day for YOU so of course it is ALWAYS on your mind but it's not the most important day to everyone else YES they DO CARE but it's not their top priority or all they think about.
Like hilsy, it was really the last 2 months or so beforehand that people really got interested.
The only people that were really hungry for details were my co-workers. I work with all females and they are mostly 20-something single girls, they really, really wanted to know things and try on my e-ring, etc.
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Our wedding date is Aug 27. 2011 and I am totally over stoked about it and think about it all the time. All the details, the planning, etc. It feels very all consuming. I'm constantly researching decor ideas, looking over blogs, and getting in touch with vendors.
When my other friends got engaged and started planning a wedding, I felt I was right along side with them, asking about dresses, wedding colors, flowers, and so on. I dont feel like that is what is happening with me. I realize the holidays are upon us, and the wedding is 10 months away.
Is is possible that its just too far away for people to care? Just to clarify, I dont mean that they dont care about us, but more so, its simply not on their radar yet.
What do you think Bees? What was/is your experience??