Post # 1
So I am a waiting bee but one with a definite time line. Mr. Schmidt and I are talked at length about a fall 2011 wedding and since I played volleyball and he played football in college, we have gotten ahold of 2011 schedules and picked a date that worked for all of the current athletes and coaches we want to invite. As you can see, that date is the middle of next October. However, I don’t have a ring yet – we’ve picked one out but the jeweler is doing a big sale at the end of this October and 10-15% off is a lot when both of us are 23 and I’m still working on my masters – so the ring should be coming soon. My dilemma is that Mr. Schmidt doesn’t want to start really planning the wedding until after we are “officially” engaged. Is 11 months enough time to plan an entire wedding? I have done some looking online at venues and churches and this will be an offseason for where we are from (Montana) but I am still worried that everything will be booked. What do you guys think? How long did you book venues, photog, etc before your wedding?
Post # 3
1) Love seeing a fellow volleyball bee
2) PLENTY! We got engaged “officially” at Thanksgiving and have had more than enough time to plan. Now, we did book our church in early Oct. as they require 1 year notice for prep work and had the photog penciled in. We solidified everything once it was official and our date changed 3 times 😉 We had more than enough time though!
Post # 4
11 months is certainly enough time to plan a wedding. I planned mine in 8, but I know lots of folks who have planned it in less. If you are concerned about things booking up, and you know the engagement is imminent, it never hurts to do your research and get some ideas early so you have a direction of where to start once you officially get planning. The venue is your #1 priority.
Post # 5
YES! I planned mine in 11 months (Nov engagement, Oct wedding). Most venues in my area started booking for Oct in Jan, so we were ahead of the curve when we were venue scouting in Dec. There were of course a few weekends already taken, but we had our pick of almost all of our venues.
For a photographer, we booked in December… but since we ended up doing a destination wedding (changed in Feb. to a destination, ha!) I booked the photographer we’ll actually be using in February.
You’ll be totally fine, esp. if it’s the off season where you are. Oct. is a busy season in both in MN where we started planning and MX, where we actually chose.
Post # 6
You have plenty of time! trust me I have pretty much everything all planned for my wedding in about a month and we got engaged this march, so we did it in about 7 months with A LOT of help from my mom!
Post # 7
Tons of time. I got engaged less than a month and a half ago and am getting married in 4 months today!
Post # 8
You have plenty of time! I wish I had that long. I got engaged in May and Fiance did not want a long engagement. I wanted to marry in March during spring break but he wanted earlier and Jan was the only time I can fit a wedding in with my school schedule. You will be fine! Happy Planning!
Post # 9
More than enough. I’m planning mine in fewer than 7 months. We knew around when we wanted it, so prior to the ‘official’ engagement, I contacted locations I wanted to check out and went over their wedding options. I also found my dress prior to officially being engaged since dresses can take a while depending on what you want. And that was that.
It’ll be hardest to deal with finding a venue/caterer (if needed) you want for the day, so there is no reason you can’t look at those and weed them out.
I think men often times don’t realize how difficult some aspects can be to pin down. My Fiance was shocked at how long dresses took!
Post # 10
I had to chuckle at this! You have plenty of time! We got engaged first of May and are getting married Oct. 9th. And we didn’t even do much planning really until June probably! So I had a total of 6 months to work with. Go ahead with the 11!
Post # 11
@STBSchmidt: we will be engaged for 11 months when we get married and it’s plenty of time. we kind of wish we had planned for only 8-9 months!
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! I feel so relieved! 🙂 @jindc – you are totally right. Men just don’t get it. We were reading the Bee last night and were looking at a post about how much everyone spent per person for a meal and he was shocked! He thought it would be $10-15 pp. Including alcohol! Really Mr. Schmidt – you and 3 friends are NOT going to be able to grill steak and chicken for 125 people…
Post # 13
You will do fine. Especially if you have a vision! I planned mine in about 9.5 months. I don’t think it is that crazy unless you have no idea what you want.
Post # 14
I got engaged mid-June and we have decided on a Thanksgiving wedding for about 100 people. As of today, i have pretty much everything done. But then again i’m super organized like you wouldn’t believe. And i’m in Florida and the wedding is in Maryland. Heading up there next Thursday to order the cake and flowers and sit down with the caterers to pick out a menu and those are pretty much the last details. Dress is due in mid-September and thats the last detail. Funny we ordered our rings last weekend and the girl at Kay Jewelers said “most brides with a wedding 3 months away are totally freaking out right about now”….not me. I say 11 months is more then enough time.
Post # 15
I’m planning mine in 7 months. I had the venue, caterer and dress within a week, but then again, I’m very decisive. I’m also having my wedding on a Sunday in the off-season when vendors tend to be more available.
I honestly don’t know how people plan weddings for 1-2 years, I think I would go stir crazy in that time!
Post # 16
Yes it’s enough as everyone else has said.
I knew a solid year in advance of our date (maybe a bit more) that we were planning to get engaged and thinking about March/April 2011, but we only became official recently. I had the same problem where Fiance was reluctant to do much planning without being official. But there is a lot of “pre-planning” that goes into weddings, a lot of research (especially into what kind of dress you want), reading, getting ideas of what your timeline is. So there are things you can start to do now without making actual decisions. The only thing to be careful of is whether your venue might book up – – that was how I got Fiance to agree to plan before we were officially engaged – – our area is the type that books locations well in advance and we wanted to be able to have plenty of choices.
All that being said, even though he agreed to do “some” planning, I still ended up spending a lot of time feeling like I was doing illicit wedding planning – hiding the bridal magazines, feeling guilty when I brought it up with my Fiance too frequently – it’s hard not to get a strange feeling when you are pre-planning a wedding. Just know that there are lots of us out there who did the same thing so you’re not alone.