(Closed) Is 18 months too long?

posted 4 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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953 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well I was a little confused when I saw that this is under Full Figured .. I thought I must have missed something..

But we are getting towards the end of our 19 month engagement, and I’m loving it. I would do it again.

Post # 4
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My engagement will be 17 months by the end of it and it was fine. 

Post # 5
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

By the time we get married we would have been engaged for 19 months and it was fine =)

Post # 6
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1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We were engaged for 3 years before getting married, but to be honest we didn’t start planning our wedding until 8 months before the wedding.

It didn’t put any strain on our relationship, mostly because we knew that we would have a long engagement beforehand.

Post # 7
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1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My engagement will total 32 months — yes, more than 2 years.

We got a LOT of crap for it. But ya know what? We are paying for mostly everything on our own.

And the long engagement gave us time to get new jobs, book our 1st choice of venues and vendors, and save to buy a house (which we just did a few months ago).

It has also allowed us to pay for wedding stuff over time instead of being rushed and super stressed. And if we got tired of it or overwhelmed, we had time to take a break.

And now that the wedding is 4 months away (AUGH) I cannot BELIEVE how fast it went.

It didn’t put a strain on our relationship at all. In fact, I think it made us stronger.

I actually think longer engagements are less strain/stress on a couple than short engagements, IMHO.

As long as you stay patient with each other and keep your eyes on the prize, you should be fine.

Post # 8
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My fiance and I got engaged this Christmas…and didn’t set a date/start planning until last month! The date we set was December 20th, 2014- so, we’ll be engaged almost two years before we actually tie the knot.

I feel really good about it, because it gives us lots of time to have our dream wedding. We also just purchased a house (well, we’re building- will be done and final soon!), and it gives us plenty of time to pay for both and not feel too stressed or rushed. 

As the bride, I feel great about it, because I have time to put together more time consuming ideas that I feel will really add a lot to the wedding. (For example, gathering brooches for brooch bouquet for me and MOH as well as bracelets for the moms, and vintage handkerchiefs for favors). 

Who knows, we’ve only been engaged for five months so far, so I may feel differently when the time comes…but right now, it is great. Very stress free. I can’t imagine getting married any sooner!

Post # 9
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Dialysate:  You have a great wedding date. My old next door neighbors had the same wedding date and were married for over 65 years (until he died in his 90s). I hope your marriage lasts just as long and is just as happy!

Post # 10
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hi date twin! We’ve been engaged since last October, so 19 months total. But I agree June 7th is the date! Is it outside? If not I wouldn’t worry about it

Post # 11
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We will have a 21-month engagement, and it’s been fine! We booked the venue ASAP, which was the biggest piece of the puzzle. After that was settled, we didn’t do much planning at all until 10 months before the wedding, which is a good amount of time for us. I’m glad we didn’t start earlier, or else the stress would have lasted too long, and I would have changed my mind a bunch of times!

I think it’s safe to look and try on dresses earlier, but I wouldn’t buy the dress until about a year beforehand, to avoid dress regret!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sablemuse:  Yeah, I don’t really understand why this is in full figured, either? 

Anyway, we’re having an 18 month (almost 19) engagement. We’ve had lots of time to plan, pay, and DIY stuff. I’ve got ~3 months left and very little left to do, so I won’t be running around crazy the last month or so.

Post # 13
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@sah612:  Aww, thank you! Made my day 🙂

Post # 14
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think it’s fine as long as you don’t stress and/or obsess over wedding stuff for 18 months straight. I would set goals for yourself like “this month I’ll book a venue and a photographer” and then give yourself a few months of break time in between. 

Post # 15
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1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

*looks at my wedding date* 

It is 5 months into a 28 month engagement. I’m chillin’. 🙂 venue and photographer are booked and I can relax until the end of the year when my MOH comes home and comes dress shopping with me.

So no, your engagement is not too long if you dont feel it is.

Post # 16
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9147 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@budgetbrideMeredithH85:  Our engagement is one month shy of two years.  Nobody has commented on two years being too long from engagement to wedding so I think you’re fine.

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