Is 2 and a half too young for a ring bearer?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It depends on the maturity of the 2.5 yr old.  Some children at this age could do this, and some can not.  Also depends on the attn span of the child. I was a BM in a wedding where the SIL almost 3 yr old and she screamed the whole time. 


Post # 4
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah…it depends. I had my 2 year old nephew in the wedding, but I had him walk down the aisle with two other “supportive” ring bearers who were 4 and 6. He got down the aisle, but he did scream in part of the ceremony, and spent much of the time before the ceremony running around making funny faces. His shirt is untucked in the pictures. I was so happy at my wedding I didn’t even notice, but I was told about it afterwards by those who did…

Post # 5
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

my son will be 3 at the time of the wedding and I know he will be able to do this fine

Post # 6
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@PaisleyMedic:  We’re having FI’s 2.5 year old goddaughter as a flower girl but her father is also a groomsman so I’m thinking he’ll probably either walk her down or have to come get her.  If you’re laissez faire about this sort of thing I think it can be cute, but if you think you’ll get upset by mishaps probably best to avoid it.

And I’m sure it doesn’t need to be said but don’t give him the real ring 😉

Post # 8
1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

One of our flowers girls was 2 1/2 and she walked down the aisle beautifully.  I wouldn’t trust him to be a ‘true’ ring bearer (because you’d be far too worried about the fate of the rings!) but arrange for him to have a sign or something and don’t fret about whether or not he actually does it.  Kids that age can get fussy about something that normally they’d be fine to do, so if on the day he’s not in the right frame of mind to do it on the day, he just doesn’t do it.  Our other flower girl is 6 and was super nervous about it (all to do with her mum putting ideas in her head, but that’s a totally different story!) but my two grown up bridesmaids took the two little ones aside, without their mums, just before the ceremony and told them how exciting it was going to be.  Then they walked along and did the job of just looking super cute Smile

Post # 9
22 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hi, (wedding less than TWO WEEKS AWAY!-YIKES!)

My flower girl is 2 1/2 and I think she will be fine, as her big sister (almost 6) is a junior bridesmaid. If the flower girl wants, I will let them walk in together, but I think both of them are little hams so I’m sure neither will be bothered about some of their own spotlight time! 🙂 

Also, her Mom and Dad are in the wedding party, so if she wants to stay up with them she can, or go and sit with her grandparents in the front row. Either way I won’t mind! 

Post # 10
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We’re planning on having my SO’s niece as flower girl.  She will be almost 2 by the time the big day comes (planning on next year).  I would love to have my godson as ring bearer but he’ll only be one and that’s probably too young.

Post # 11
2889 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

it does depend a lot on the child, but for me, that age is too iffy and you have to do everything you can to make sure the child is as happy as possible- they’ve napped, they’ve eaten, they have a clean diaper or have used the restroom…

we considered having my husband’s niece/god daughter be our flower girl. she was about 2.5 when we got married. she’s normally a very happy go lucky girl, but when she gets mad, watch out and cover your ears! we decided that we didn’t want to risk stage fright or a melt down minutes before the ceremony.

Post # 12
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My nephew was a few days shy of 3 and he did a great job. Walked down the aisle holding a pillow without missing a step! I was worried too, but for me I told my sis if he has a meltdown he does not need to walk, not the end of the world. Or have his father walk with him. It was my 4 year old flower girl who decided to milk her walk and smile/throw petals at every single guest. It was so cute, my nephew went back to get her and kind of dragged her by the arm telling her to hurry up lol. I think it’s best if your ring bearer has a partner to walk with.  Early two, I woud definitely say no. Two and a half, probably will be ok!

Post # 13
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My nephew will be about 2.5. I think he’ll do just fine! He’s a little shy, but I think as long as he’s been around me and my FI that day, and of course as long as his momma is right there in front, that he’ll love it. He’s a pretty happy kid though. He really doesn’t throw tantrums or anything (yet lol).

Post # 14
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think that as long as you don’t mind upredictable, that 2.5 yr old ring bearer will be fine.  They’re super cute and sweet and as long as you know he may decide half way down the isle he doesn’t want to go any farther or runs up to mommy or daddy…and you’re ok with that (possibly) happening, then I say go for it!  Personally, I think the younger kids involved in weddings add character to the ceremony and I always love it.

Post # 15
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My granddaughter was two and a half when we got married. She was my bridesmaid and ring bearer but she didn’t walk down the aisle carrying my ring. Instead, she held my hand as I came in on my son’s arm. My stepson (aged 31!) was “Lord of the Ring” and handed it (in its box!) to my granddaughter who passed it to me. 

She was perfectly capable of walking down the aisle but whether or not she’d have chosen to do it is another thing. Two and a half year olds have very definite minds of their own! So don’t assume anything and then you won’t be disappointed. Just make provision for him deciding not to do what’s intended at the last minute.

As long as you can cope with the unpredictability, two and a half year olds can be super cute show stealers (you have to be able to cope with that too!) and my granddaughter was very keen to play a starring role. As you can see from the picture when, having been given the ring she took a good long look at it and said “Nanny’s Lovely Ring In Here!” – she was totally not going to be hurried!


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