Post # 1
*sigh* This is my second thread in 40 minutes, please forgive me. I have a lot of questions today.
FI and I are going to start our gift registries soon and I would like the hives advice. First of all let me start by saying I feel so weird asking for gifts…I feel like no one is going to get me anything because I have done nothing to deserve them. T_T
- Our first gift registry is Deposit A Gift – a money deposit website.
- The second registry we are thinking about is Bed, Bath & Beyond. We don’t have a reason for going here, it is just typical…Right?
- The third registry we are thinking about is Wayfair.com because they have a bed we really need (I have a full bed and it is too small for the both of us.)
- The fourth registry I just thought of today is Fred Meyers (A grocery store/home/pharmacy store) we really need bed linens, and dishes from here.
The first registry we already have completed and does not need to be discussed, what does need to be discussed though is this:
- Is it acceptable to have 4 registries with only 57 guests coming to the wedding? Or is that unacceptable? I honestly have no idea!
- Since we don’t need anything from Bed, Bath & Beyond should I nix that out and stick with the places I need things from?
My 57 guests age ranges from 18-75, the average age range is 22-24. If that is something you bees need to help me. Let me know what you ladies think, please.
Post # 3
i dont think you’re being greedy. if anything you are giving your guests more options.. tho w/a wedding w 57 guests idk if you really need that many registries and it may just be easier on you later on to have fewer ..ie ease of returning any gifts, keeping track etc.
Post # 4
I honestly think you should really look at the bed bath and beyond website and just see what they have to offer. Most people find it convenient to go there and they can use the 20% off coupons on each item.
I really like the first registry you have, however, I don’t agree with the Wayfair.com for a bed. Maybe that is something you can bring up in conversation with a family member (parents?) and they can buy that for you. Plus, you will know that you are getting it and you can focus on the appropriate sheet sets from other sites.
But it’s totally up to you. Just don’t go over 4.
Post # 5
@JoJoDahling: I don’t know if you’re being greedy so much as you’ll simply be confusing guests.
I know you’re supposed to rely on word of mouth for registries these days… and if you have 3-4 different ones, then that could get REALLY confusing… and some people might get a bit annoyed.
I would do 2 TOPS, but probably just stick with one, personally.
Post # 6
Our wedding had 56 guests and we had 3 registeries. The reason? Our guests were spread across the states and thought it would easier for them to have choices. We also didnt register for anything over $100
Post # 7
@Mrs.Kpop: I didn’t even think about returning gifts and gift management, thanks for bringing that up!
@BullsFan43: Thank you, I will spend some time tonight looking through their website to see if there is anything we could use, and thank you for the advice about the bed, I think that is more reasonable.
@canarydiamond: Oh? I did not know that registries were word of mouth. My FI’s family always gives little papers in their wedding invites of their registries. That will give me something to think about, thank you. I didn’t think about confusing guests and you brought up a valid point!
@Hippos: That is what we’re trying to do, nothing over $100 except one item. Thank you for your input, I appreciate it.
Post # 8
I guess I technically have 4, but one only has 3 items on it and they all cost less than $50.00 so I’m going to go with I have 3. However, I’m not putting any registry info on invites and it’s not on my shower invites either. People have just asked my sisters where I’m registered.
I have 1 registry that just has china and crystal on it and don’t expect anyone but my grandparents to buy off of. Then I have a pretty big Macy’s registry with all the typical items from $25 to $1000 and 1 other smaller registry that has like 20 pretty cheap items on it $5-$50.
I really only registered for my shower because I don’t expect many people to give actual wedding gifts. My circle is the cash gift kind of circle, which is fine. I just wanted to give people lots of options for my registry (both in price and type of gift). I hate getting on a registry and just seeing boring kitchen gadgets – even though I know it’s something the couple wants, I hate buying the boring gadgets, so I like when there’s a big registry with lots of different types of things to chose from.
Post # 9
If you want linens and dishes from the other store, why sign up for Bed, Bath and Beyond? As long as there’s a local Fred Meyers store (for people who don’t want to use the internet) I think you’re fine.
Post # 10
i dont think it’s greedy, i actually think it’s good because now they have more options 🙂
Post # 11
I think it’s a little much. We did two registries (crate and barrel and BB&B) and that’s with 175 guests.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We had 3, crate & barrel, Macy’s and Amazon. If you only want one itemfrom Wayfair, I would just use wedding money towards that.
BB&B is nice for your guests because they can use coupons (you may get a little more because of that.)
You can list registry info on your wedding web site.
Post # 13
@MrsWBS: Thank you for that insight, I’ll run this by my FI about choosing unique, interesting items because I want to give our guests as many options as possible.
@AlwaysSunny: Thank you, that is what I am kind of contimplating as well.
@Anamagana: Thank you!
@abbie017: I appreciate that opinion, I feel comfortable with about 2 registries as well. I’ll talk to my FI and see where he feels comfortable when it comes to our registries.
@rebwana: I didn’t think about coupons, that is a good idea! I also agree with the whole Wayfair idea too, I should use the wedding money to put towards that. I will be listing the registries on our wedding website too. ^_^
Post # 14
I’ve been reading and three seems to be the average amount. We are going to have three: Macy’s, Home Depot, and Target
Post # 15
is there a completion discount at wayfair? if yes, i would still make it, and then just not broadcast it (or at least not beyond immediate family)
i think options are good, and people are going to spend what they’re going to spend regardless. I wouldn’t feel pressured to spend more if someone was registered at more places. more store options is good (they can go for whatever’s closest to them) and i think they’ll get that you’re not being greedy if none of the lists are huge. just make sure to monitor them and add items as necessary (that you can always return) if one store is more popular with your guests than the others
Post # 16
I don’t think its greedy…just too much for your guests. Keep it to 1-2 real life stores (like BB&B) for the old timers, and an online registry. Try Amazon– they have a universal registry button and you can add things from any site.