Is 3/4 carat engagement ring adequate?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Which do you recommend?
    Keep the 3/4 carat : (53 votes)
    82 %
    Upgrade to 1 carat : (12 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    579 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I personally think its beautiful. Its got good specs and its a very classic design. I personally would not upgrade it, but instead would opt for maybe a blingy wedding band or a stack.

    But, if you want to upgrade, but can’t justify price, consider going just under a full carat. The size jump is still noticeable, but the price jump isn’t as harsh.

    Post # 3
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    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper

    The ring is lovely. Why are you interested in upgrading? It seems your fiancee was fine with the original ring. The cost is definitely more, and it seems you could probably use the extra money towards starting your future together anyway. As you said, it’s your commitment together that’s most important.

    Post # 4
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    110 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would keep the 3/4 carat – it doesn’t sound to me like the size difference is large enough to warrant a 2.5x increase in price! Plus, the current stone looks lovely and delicate on her – very classic. 

    Also, you never know, you may find you feel differently about an upgrade when you hit a milestone anniversary (10 or 20 years). 

    Post # 5
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    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee

    CalRon:  I think her current ring looks beautiful!! Since a new stone is 2.5x’s the price, I would rather use that extra $$$ on another jewelry piece to add to my collection. 😉

    Plus a .25 carat size difference isn’t going to look that different than the size she has now. Her current ring looks great on her hand 🙂

    Post # 7
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    2056 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Honestly if I were you, I would just lay it out on the table and see what she thinks since you’re unsure of what to do. Tell her that upgrading would mean it costing more than double the current price of her diamond, and see if she thinks it’s worth it or not– and then you’ve got your answer. (Since she isn’t into jewelry she probably won’t find it necessary to upgrade anyway).

    Post # 8
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    6496 posts
    Bee Keeper

    GirlyGirl24:  I agree. Since you’re willing to upgrade if she really wants to, give her the option and see what she thinks about it. FWIW, I think the current ring looks great on her.

    Post # 9
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    185 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium

    TheLadyA :  I’m with you.

    It wont be a huge change in the size of the ring amd personally I’d rather use the money for another piece of jewelry. I think it looks great on her, but if down the road you or she thinks it’s too small maybe upgrade then.

    Post # 10
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    579 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    CalRon:  this is what I was trying to tell you; a .9 and 1 carat diamond look almost identical. Yet, you WILL NOT pay 2.5xs more money for it. If money is an issue, this is a way to save, but still get that 1 carat look.

    I still stick by my original statement, the ring she has is beautiful, and it should be up to her if she wants an uograde. I personally wouldn’t do it.

    Post # 11
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    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Calamigos Ranch

    CalRon:  Most people won’t even be able to tell what size the diamond is. Most will just assume it’s around a carat. I’ve known quite a few people who started with carat diamonds and then “upgraded” to a larger stone on their 5 year anniversary or when they could afford it (if finances is what kep it small). I’d recommend an eventual upgrade if it bothers you after a few months or even years.

    Post # 12
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    492 posts
    Helper bee

    I think that the size looks perfect.  It doesn’t look to small at all.  If she had big hands, then it may do, but she doesn’t!  My ring is a .5 something…. and I woudn’t change it for the world as it is the ring my husband chose and proposed with.  Even if he wanted to upgrade to a larger stone, I wouldn’t allow it as I wouldn’t want to change what he originally put so much time and effort into choosing, but i’m sentimental like that!! 🙂

    Post # 13
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    1891 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    She loves it, so why bother?! Put that money toward other things…

    Post # 14
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    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    If she is interested in a larger-sized diamond and you’d like to keep the price reasonable (which who wouldn’t want to do?!), just know that you can get one that is slightly “lesser” quality that will still basically look the same to the eye.  For most people, having an E-colored, VS1 diamond vs. a G-colored, SI1 diamond isn’t really much of an “appreciable” difference.  They’ll both be colorless, and and they’ll both look flawless unless you look at them SUPER CLOSELY with eagle eyes.  Just make sure you get excellent cut/polish/symmetry, and they’ll both sparkle just the same.

    Post # 15
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    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee

    CalRon:  I sold fine jewelry for a long time (in nyc). I’m going to let you in on a secret, your average person cannot tell the difference between 3/4 carat and 1 carat. Especially depending on the cut, clarity, and setting (some setting provide more or less light refraction). 

    You are correct, the price difference is absurd and not worth it. If you really want to get your girl a bigger rock (which honestly seems unnecessary), do yourself a favor and buy used (from a reputable estate jeweler). If you do that you could probably even get 1.5 for the cost of 1 carat new.

    But I’d say listen to her, she said she was happy, believe her! In ten years if she wants more sparkle, get her a tennis bracelet or a pair of earrings or something. It’s a lovely set, and you shouldn’t worry what other people think. Most people will not know the difference anyway.

    My ring is .4 carats total, but because of the antique art deco setting it looks larger- the other day a girl I was hanging out with said something about my “huge 2 carat rock”- hah! Hardly!

    Honestly, jewelry is like wine. Everyone can tell the difference between a $5 bottle and a $100 bottle. But most people can’t taste the difference between a $100 bottle and a $300 bottle (even when they claim they can). 

    You made a great choice- chill 🙂 

    ETA: Also, I agree with the gaudiness worries. Huge diamonds are the trend right now, just like massive settings were popular in the 1980s. It will most likely swing back. What you got her is timeless and classy. These gigantic rocks are kind of like the “hummers” of rings, popular in the moment, but a bit much in hindsight. 

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