Post # 1
I am newly engaged and getting married in Feb 2015. I am starting to second guess the diamond I proposed to my fiance with. The diamond itself is absolutely gorgoues, I’m just uncertain of it’s size.
The diamond was purchased from Whiteflash. It’s a Round Brilliant ACA, E, VS1, .75 carat. It is set in a James Allen six prong setting which closely resembles the Tiffany Classic Solitaire. She wears a size 6.
My fiance absolutley adores her ring, but when I mentioned a possible upgrade in size she was even happier. I am having a very difficult time justifying the significant increase in price. I can trade her diamond in and apply the original price towards a larger diamond. The one I am interested in costs 2.5x the price of her current diamond. It is a 1.10 carat, ACA, G, VS1.
Do you guys think it is worth the upgrade? I want something she can wear forever and be proud of. I don’t think I would ever want to trade it in after we get married due to sentimental value.
Also, I should mention that my fiance does not wear much jewelry. She doesn’t have a clue when it comes to diamonds, she just likes the way they sparkle. She adores the current ring I gave her and is just happy that I finally proposed. I am the one pressing the issue more than her.
Here is a picture of her current ring with her future wedding band. It was taken with a cell phone, so it isn’t the most detailed.
Post # 2
I personally think its beautiful. Its got good specs and its a very classic design. I personally would not upgrade it, but instead would opt for maybe a blingy wedding band or a stack.
But, if you want to upgrade, but can’t justify price, consider going just under a full carat. The size jump is still noticeable, but the price jump isn’t as harsh.
Post # 3
The ring is lovely. Why are you interested in upgrading? It seems your fiancee was fine with the original ring. The cost is definitely more, and it seems you could probably use the extra money towards starting your future together anyway. As you said, it’s your commitment together that’s most important.
Post # 4
I would keep the 3/4 carat – it doesn’t sound to me like the size difference is large enough to warrant a 2.5x increase in price! Plus, the current stone looks lovely and delicate on her – very classic.
Also, you never know, you may find you feel differently about an upgrade when you hit a milestone anniversary (10 or 20 years).
Post # 5
CalRon: I think her current ring looks beautiful!! Since a new stone is 2.5x’s the price, I would rather use that extra $$$ on another jewelry piece to add to my collection. 😉
Plus a .25 carat size difference isn’t going to look that different than the size she has now. Her current ring looks great on her hand 🙂
Post # 6
When I look at the picture, I love it too. She doesn’t plan on wearing anything other than those two rings. I could upgrade to just under a carat, but if I’m going to go through the trouble of spending more money on a larger diamond and having it reset, I might as well go all out.
The reason I am considering the upgrade is because I worry a few years down the road, it may seem too small. I dont want her to have anything too large or tacky either. 1 carat seems to be the perefect size, but a 25-30% increase in size for 2.5 x the price is difficult to justify.
The money is definitely better off being put into a savings account or paying for education. I just want the best for her and something I can be proud of as well.
Post # 7
Honestly if I were you, I would just lay it out on the table and see what she thinks since you’re unsure of what to do. Tell her that upgrading would mean it costing more than double the current price of her diamond, and see if she thinks it’s worth it or not– and then you’ve got your answer. (Since she isn’t into jewelry she probably won’t find it necessary to upgrade anyway).
Post # 8
GirlyGirl24: I agree. Since you’re willing to upgrade if she really wants to, give her the option and see what she thinks about it. FWIW, I think the current ring looks great on her.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium
TheLadyA : I’m with you.
It wont be a huge change in the size of the ring amd personally I’d rather use the money for another piece of jewelry. I think it looks great on her, but if down the road you or she thinks it’s too small maybe upgrade then.
Post # 10
CalRon: this is what I was trying to tell you; a .9 and 1 carat diamond look almost identical. Yet, you WILL NOT pay 2.5xs more money for it. If money is an issue, this is a way to save, but still get that 1 carat look.
I still stick by my original statement, the ring she has is beautiful, and it should be up to her if she wants an uograde. I personally wouldn’t do it.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2015 - Calamigos Ranch
CalRon: Most people won’t even be able to tell what size the diamond is. Most will just assume it’s around a carat. I’ve known quite a few people who started with carat diamonds and then “upgraded” to a larger stone on their 5 year anniversary or when they could afford it (if finances is what kep it small). I’d recommend an eventual upgrade if it bothers you after a few months or even years.
Post # 12
I think that the size looks perfect. It doesn’t look to small at all. If she had big hands, then it may do, but she doesn’t! My ring is a .5 something…. and I woudn’t change it for the world as it is the ring my husband chose and proposed with. Even if he wanted to upgrade to a larger stone, I wouldn’t allow it as I wouldn’t want to change what he originally put so much time and effort into choosing, but i’m sentimental like that!! 🙂
Post # 13
She loves it, so why bother?! Put that money toward other things…
Post # 14
If she is interested in a larger-sized diamond and you’d like to keep the price reasonable (which who wouldn’t want to do?!), just know that you can get one that is slightly “lesser” quality that will still basically look the same to the eye. For most people, having an E-colored, VS1 diamond vs. a G-colored, SI1 diamond isn’t really much of an “appreciable” difference. They’ll both be colorless, and and they’ll both look flawless unless you look at them SUPER CLOSELY with eagle eyes. Just make sure you get excellent cut/polish/symmetry, and they’ll both sparkle just the same.
Post # 15
CalRon: I sold fine jewelry for a long time (in nyc). I’m going to let you in on a secret, your average person cannot tell the difference between 3/4 carat and 1 carat. Especially depending on the cut, clarity, and setting (some setting provide more or less light refraction).
You are correct, the price difference is absurd and not worth it. If you really want to get your girl a bigger rock (which honestly seems unnecessary), do yourself a favor and buy used (from a reputable estate jeweler). If you do that you could probably even get 1.5 for the cost of 1 carat new.
But I’d say listen to her, she said she was happy, believe her! In ten years if she wants more sparkle, get her a tennis bracelet or a pair of earrings or something. It’s a lovely set, and you shouldn’t worry what other people think. Most people will not know the difference anyway.
My ring is .4 carats total, but because of the antique art deco setting it looks larger- the other day a girl I was hanging out with said something about my “huge 2 carat rock”- hah! Hardly!
Honestly, jewelry is like wine. Everyone can tell the difference between a $5 bottle and a $100 bottle. But most people can’t taste the difference between a $100 bottle and a $300 bottle (even when they claim they can).
You made a great choice- chill 🙂
ETA: Also, I agree with the gaudiness worries. Huge diamonds are the trend right now, just like massive settings were popular in the 1980s. It will most likely swing back. What you got her is timeless and classy. These gigantic rocks are kind of like the “hummers” of rings, popular in the moment, but a bit much in hindsight.