Post # 1
FI is 6 years older than me. When we get married, I’ll be 26 and he’ll be 32.
We’ve always been long distance so I want a year or two of just us living together, traveling, etc before we have children. I also want to go back to school.
However FI is worried that he’ll be too old by then to have kids. He’s terrified of being a senior citizen when our kid graduates high school. His parents had him at age 20 so to him, anything past 30 is ancient for a parent.
Is 35 too old to begin having children for a man? Say we got lucky and had one right away when he’s 35, then waited a year or two for our second child, he’d be 37/maybe 38. Is that too old?
Post # 3
No way! Maybe it’s my social circle/region, but mid-thirties is pretty standard to me.
Post # 4
“He’s terrified of being a senior citizen when our kid graduates high school.”
A lot of 52-year-olds would disagree with your FI that they are senior citizens.
DH will be 35 when our first child arrives. It’s just the way things worked out for us. Neither of us thinks he will be too old.
Post # 5
I think people are having children later and later in life. Heck, I’m 32 and having our first child next week.
We have friends who are older and are still having children. One is 37 having their 3rd child and they want one more. So I don’t think late 30s is too old to have a child.
Post # 6
Definitely not! My dad was about that age when my sister (the youngest of 3) was born. She’s 15 now and he’s 51. My FFIL is the same age and has kids even younger than that.
Post # 7
I sure hope not, cause IF my DH and I ever decide to have rugrats they’re not coming until our 30s.
Post # 8
Uhh I hope not. DH is 33 and we haven’t even started TTC.
Post # 9
Hope not! I’m 27, my husband is 32. We’re thinking we’ll start trying probably in 2-3 years, so I’ll be 29-30 and he’ll be 34-35. I sometimes feel slightly guilty for forcing him into “old” parenthood, but he swears up and down he’s fine with it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Definitely not. Most parents I see in my area with babies/toddlers seem to be older (mid-30s) but we live in an area where there are a lot of young professionals so they wait longer to have kids.
Post # 11
My dad was 38 when they had me. Growing up my friends’ parents were a decade or so younger than my parents and that did make me feel weird. But it wasn’t a big deal. My dad is 8 years older than my mom, so she was 30 when she had me. I don’t think he was “too old” to be a dad.
Post # 12
Are you serious??? I am 30 and DH is 38 and we haven’t even started trying yet.
Post # 13
My Dad was 30 when I was born, but he was 40 when my sister was born. If anything, having a kid at 40 has kept my dad really young at heart. He’s 55 now and was out canoeing with her the other night!
My SO’s parents were 20 when he was born, so they’re 10 years younger than my parents, but mine seem much MUCH younger. I honestly believe my sister plays a MASSIVE role in that!
Post # 14
I’m the only child. My father was 38 when I was born.
Post # 15
Oh, dear — I hope not. My darling husband will be 46 when our second child arrives in April. We were 36 and 42 (first marriage for both) when we got married.
Post # 16
Now this is OLD!!!!
Ramajit Raghav claims his wife Shakuntala, 59, gave birth to their son Karamjit just last month.
World’s oldest dad
Indian, 94, claims he has had a son with his wife, 59
The couple have described the boy as “god’s gift” — and aren’t ruling out having more.
Ramajit said: “It is great that I have become the world’s oldest dad.