Post # 1
My venue is not available for me or any vendors to come and set up until noon. Our ceremony will be at 4:30. That gives me 4 1/2 hours to: Set up all the decor and get ready. I do not have a wedding planner/coordinator and all decor (including flowers) I am doing myself.
As far as centerpieces are concerned, I am doing flowers submerged in water in vases. I can get the vases set up with enough water for the flower to not die, but I can’t fill them up all the way until after we get to the venue (otherwise they’re going to slosh and splish splash all over my car). I’ll be able to create the wedding favors ahead of time. The venue will be setting up the tables (linens, plates, silverwear, that kind of stuff).
I think were going to minimal chair decorations, decorating the altar, centerpieces, and I have some signs to set up, bouquets, as well as the gift table. I’m also positive that I’m forgetting stuff at the moment and there will be more things added to my to do list for setting up. But I think I have all the major time sucks listed. Do you think I have enough time, with the help of mhy 4 BMs, to do all of that and get ready?
I know at the last (and only) wedding I was in, us girls started getting ready 3 hours before the ceremony and we were late to the wedding. I’m worried that I just don’t have enough time. How much time should I really be allotting to us girls getting ready? I’m doing my BM’s hair and we’re all in charge of our own makeup and I will be having a friend who professionally does hair do my hair..if any of that is important to know.
Post # 2
You might be cutting it too close because you don’t want to be rushed when you’re getting ready. Do you have family that could help? You should also ask if the venue can help set up the decor since they’re doing the tables.
Post # 3
That is too much to do for me. I mean, it could be done but you would need to be kind of a go with the flow person and know that things may not look entirely as you invision if you have friends and family help out.
I’m very Type A so I couldn’t do that.
Post # 4
I do have one or two people who aren’t in the wedding party who have agreed to help. They are both older and both have back and knee problems. I’d hate for them to do too much and be in pain the rest of the evening, so I’m trying to be very cautious what exactly I ask of them. I know they will both do it, and not let anyone know they are in pain. So, I’m trying to be very careful about not giving them a lot to do since if it is too much they won’t say so.
I’ll ask the venue if they can help. Since before we even signed the contract I expressed how concerned I was there wasn’t enough time and their response was always along the lines of, “oh yeah, it seems that way but trust me it is enough time.” “it’s never been a problem” that kind of stuff. But I can always try asking outright.
Post # 5
jenilynevette: It’s funny, I’m both ends of the spectrum on that one. There are things where I’m super laid back, and things where I can be quite the control freak..Unfortunately, I’m learning a wedding is one of my ‘control freak’ kind of things. Especially since I’m making everything myself, it’s really important to me it all gets put out. So much time and effort is going into it and I would be so disappointed. I guess though, exact placement isn’t as important as at least having it out there, you know.
So bees, how much time should I allot for me to get ready? That would be helpful so I can estimate how much time is left over for setting up.
Post # 6
scarlettbegonias87: I think this is one of those times you need to call in your groomsmen. Guys don’t need as long as women to get ready. You could go for an hour, tell everyone where you want things, then leave and get ready. Your FI could even come when you leave.
You’re gonna need all the time you can get, to get ready and have a smidgen of peace time. I think 3 hours is cutting it close, but its workable.
Post # 7
No, that isn’t even close to enough time, IMO. We could get in our hall at 8am with our wedding at 6:30, I was organized to the hilt and I still ran around like a chicken with my head cut off. If you can find any way, I would find someone to set up for you, even if it means paying someone. You don’t want that stress on your wedding day, trust me, from someone who made that mistake, don’t do it.
Post # 8
scarlettbegonias87: what are the guys doing before the wedding? My husband and his GM set up our reception hall (with detailed instructions from me) because it took them all of fifteen minutes to get ready.
Post # 9
My bridesmaids/maid of honor and mom, aunts, and a few other family friends put together the decor while we were doing our first look. Four and a half hours is a ton of time…except it’s not, since you won’t be available. You’ll be getting your hair/makeup done, and putting on your dress, and maybe doing a first look, et cetera. So, find someone who understands your ideas and then find people to help that person set up.
Post # 10
Hire some college kids off craigslist to set up. Trust me you do not want to be setting up the day of your wedding.