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how many groomsmens do you have? are you having a big wedding? i am not a big fan of large wedding parties but there is not a big difference between 6 and 7...i think you are fine. :D
good luck
There are 6 groomsman but FSILs husband would be the 7th. We are having a wedding of about 150. Im not a fan of big wedding parties either, but when my original 4 went out the window I just had to let that go!
In the past I would have said "the more, the merrier", but now, after paying for my daughter's $300 bride's maid's dress... I would have to say-
If you are inviting friends to be bride's maids, you need to compensate them in some way. It is now incredibly expensive to stand in someone's wedding, especially if you count the cost of shower gifts, dresses, etc. They should receive a nice BM gift, in my opinion. Each of these folks, BMs and GMs recieve a pricey gift from the family too- so if it were me again, I would keep it simple. BTW, in 1977, we had two men and women on each side. It was quite nice.
i say if everyone in your wedding party is special to you then go for it. :D
do what makes you happy...dont worry about what you are supposed to do..
@daniellealys - thanks! I think that's what I'm going to do....I understand BM gifts can be expensive, but with what I'm doing it won't be too bad (and it is still nice!)
I had 7 bridesmaids so I obviously don't think there is anything wrong with it :)
The only problem I can think of was that I wasn't able to buy them all as nice of gifts as I would've liked, but they ended up loving their gifts anyways and it was no biggie at all!
I say go for it!
In my opinion, if a bride wants to include all the women that are close to her in her wedding, that is her choice and the size of the wedding party doesn't matter. I am having 8 BM's along with my MOH. My MOH is my best friend, 6 of my BM's are very close friends and the other 2 are my fiance's sister and niece. I sent them all DIY "will you be my bridesmaid?" cards and a personal note . I think that was far more touching than calling or emailing them. As most of my BM's live in another states, I am keeping in contact with them via email regarding wedding info and my MOH, who lives nearby, is helping me with planning.
BTW, one of my best friends had 12 BMs.... and that wasn't a big fancy royal wedding...
i'm having 7 bridesmaids! my moh is my best friend post-college, 3 college friends, 1 high school friend, my sil, and fsil. it doesn't seem like too many to me, but then again we're all pretty low-key/non-drama. bm bouquets are kind of expensive, but since there are so many bouquets we don't need any non-personal flowers at the ceremony site, so it evens out! ;)
a lot of people I know have 8, so I dont think it's bad. I think you should include her, because it sounds like you really want to :) And since you already have an extra groomsman to pair it out, it works perfect!
I am having 7. The only thing i would be concerned about is asking someone after everyone has been asked......i think that can often cause problems/unwanted drama. You know how girls can get. People don't like being an add-on. but if you think that J won't mind then i say go for it!
I was one of 7. We were quite the troupe. It actually made the bachelorette party much cheaper since it was split 7 ways! Overall, it is a lot, but if they're all really important to you, I say go for it!
@edoherty - my mom said the same thing about her getting offended..but the good thing is that she is one of the most laid back people I know. The other thing is that a few months ago (like right after I got engaged) we had a conversation about her not being in my wedding and she was very understanding (because we had lost touch) and I think she will just be happy that I asked. It was just the circumstances that I didn't ask her and now that we have gotten closer once again I think it's the right time.
It seems like 7 isn't too many and I think yall are right that since I want to have her I should have her! I hope she says yes!! :-)
i am having way too big of a party but i dont know what to do 10 girls and jr bm...it is my sis his two sis...and my close girlfriends and one cousin...only one im considering shouldn't be in it b/c we dont hang out as much....but i think it would be insulting. btw only 6 guys...but i don't know how else to do it....is this unheard of....and I am planning on picking the dresses is that okay....or do you have to let the girls do it?
I have 7 bridesmaids. Every one of them is important to me. We've been together for 7 years, so I tell him I got to ask one girl for each year he didn't propose. Obviously this wasn't true, but it's a long-standing joke.
I'm having the same dillema~ after my daughter, my FI's two sisters, my sister, two of my bff's, i alraedy have 6, but my group of girlfriends is pretty large and we are all very tight. So i wanted to include them all in it... however it would make it a total of 11!! YIKES! So I've toyed with the thought of having 7 in the wedding as part of the wedding party, and then 4 of them as 'honorary' bridesmaides. All my bm are just wearing black dresses in whatever style they like, so they prob wont have to spend much on a dress, and then the 4 of then can walk down before the wedding party but after the flower girls. I want them to be included also, but my FI doesn't have enough guys and for a wedding of 150-200, im afraid it'll be too much. Have you decided anything yet??
Mrs Bling are you gettin married at a church?...I am wondering for my 10 girls and five guys if it will look funny with everyone uneven standing there...I think I am gonna have everyone...but i don't know what to abot looking silly at the church
No, we are doing our ceremony and reception at a fabulous historic courthouse in Downtown Dallas, the Old Red. I would do it at a church, but we are doing ours on a sunday (1/2 price for the wedding that day) so our church will be in use. What I figured out after doing some research, is that there is such a thing as an honary bridesmaid, its called a House Party. They aren't part of the bridal party standing, b/c of whatever reason, but they are still bridesmaids, still wear the same gown, and still walk out, just ahead of the MOB, and sit at the far edge of the frong row on my side. Since i have four i was really excited about this idea. All my BM are wearing solid black dresses, their own style, so i didn't feel it would cause any extra money out on their behalf, and i'll just have them with a different version of flowers to carry. I love my friends, and figured it would me so much to have them included this is a great way to keep it clean.
i have 7 bridesmaids.. and it got kinda pricey @ first buying their gifts.. and bouquets.. but i think in the end.. i wouldnt have it any other way!! :) my girls are great!
I like that the honorary thing....Im thinking telling the girls b/c there is so many that my family will stand next to me and the rest of the girls will sit front row, but they will walk out like the bridesmaids, but sit during the ceremony, and walk out with the guys two girls to 1 guy.
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I asked my 6 BMs right after I got engaged (MOH-bf from HS, BM1-bf from HS, FIs cousin and 3 sisters). There were other women in my life that I love dearly but I had 6 and felt like that was enough. My friend we'll call her J, was not a part of the BMs that I initially asked because we had not hung out in a year and then when I got engaged I had only seen her 2 times. After being engaged for 6 months I have hung out with her several more times. We were best friends in high school and kept in touch throughout college and after, but the past year we have both slacked on the friendship. After hanging out with her since being engaged we have gotten a lot closer and I feel like I would regret not having her in my bridal party. I know that 7 is a lot of BMs and I never expected to have that many, but I want her to be in my life and know that I care for her. So, is it ok that I have 7 bridesmaids?? I asked my original BMs if they would be in my bridal party in person, but I didn't do anything special. I think if I am going to ask J to be in my bridal party I want to do something special for her - so any ideas on this too? I have invited her to come to my first dress fitting on Saturday so I want to ask her then! Thanks in advance for any wise words bees!