Post # 1
I live outside of Philadelphia and am looking to hold a wedding in Lancaster County. I attended school out there, and it’s very special to my fiance and I. Not to mention the cost and guest minimums are more convenient for us, and BEAUTIFUL out there.
It’s approximately 1 hour and 30 minutes away, and we will be holding the ceremony five-hour reception at the same site. Do you think the drive is too much? I’ve been to less than five weddings in my entire life, but they’ve been somewhat local (around 30-40 minutes).
I know that some members of the family thought it was cool that we were considering Lancaster, because they were asking at our Engagement Party. It is on a Saturday, and if I can I am trying to push the ceremony up a little earlier (as opposed to 5 pm for traffic reasons).
I just wanted to get the opinions of others?
Post # 3
It’s not bad if people are planning to spend the night. 1.5 hours driving there and then 1.5 hours driving back in a single day is a bit much.
Do you think guests have the means to find overnight lodging?
Post # 4
@misss0901: Well your wedding sounds convenient enough as far as the day and having everything on-site. Whether 90 minutes is worth it or not is really up to the individual guest. My parents are Lancaster fanatics so it would be no big deal for them!
Post # 5
@misss0901: I don’t think it’s bad at all. Most of my work friends will be driving an hour and a half to get to my wedding, and I don’t think any of them are planning on getting a hotel for the night (maybe one or two couples will out of the 8 from work). As a guest, I would stay the night after driving that distance but many choose not to. The last wedding I went to was 4 hours away (and the couple lives 15 minutes away from us).
Post # 6
We live in the western Phila. suburbs and are having our wedding in Dauphin County – 1.5 hours away. Approximately 2/3rd of the guests are coming from the Phila. area and we expect about half of those to stay over. I got discounted room blocks at 4 different hotels. The groom’s family/friends are from the eastern Pittsburgh suburbs, so it was a good compromise. We expect all of them to stay over. If people carpool, it shouldn’t be too bad, and most rooms have 2-queens. Some people will give distance as an excuse for not attending, but they might be the ones who would look for excuses anyway. With the way city traffic is, it sometimes takes 1.5 hours to fight the Schulkyll Expressway, Route 95,or the Blue Route. Good luck!
Post # 7
Not at all. Most people who came to our wedding traveled about 4 hours. Your wedding sounds gorgeous, and it’s great that the cerremony and reception will be in the same place!
Post # 8
Our wedding was about 1.5-2 hours away for most guests. We gave them the option to stay at the venue overnight, but most of them didn’t care about the drive. Though around here long drives are normal to get anywhere!
Post # 9
It wouldn’t be too far IMO but you’ll have to expect your guests who don’t spring for a hotel room will probably leave soon after dinner. So that could very well be a large chunk of your guests. If you are ok with that, or if your guests will mostly be financially able to get a hotel room (what I would do as a guest) then go for it. I used to live in Philly, and I’d probably make a little weekend trip out of it.
Post # 10
I don’t think that is too far — I would consider it “semi-destination” though and hope that you would coordinate hotel room blocks etc to make things easier/less expensive on your guests
Post # 11
I’d spend the night so I could drink. But I don’t think that’s too far at all.
Post # 12
@misss0901: Nah, i say it’s fine. My favourite place to go shopping is a 1.5 hour drive, so I’d do that and more to go to a wedding!
Post # 13
Since I’m assuming lots of people will be having some drinks, I’m guessing it would be smart to suggest some options for lodging. I don’t think 1.5 hours is too unreasonable one way, but I know personally I would prefer to spend the night rather than drive back that night. You wouldn’t want it to become a liablity if people who’ve been drinking decide to drive home rather than pay a massive cab bill, and leave their vehicle.
Post # 14
@misss0901: i think it’s fine as long as you provide an overnight venue.
Post # 15
@misss0901: Not at all!! It may be a lot of driving in one day for some guests though, so it would be courteous to set up a room block at a nearby hotel for a discounted rate.
Post # 16
Thank all of you for your responses. It does make me feel better, and I’m definitely going to block off rooms nearby. And I’m considering pushing everything up earlier, since we aren’t really big on “partying” but realize that safety comes first and wil do our best to accommodate those that are drinking.