Post # 1
We are looking for something rustic like a barn, estate, museum grounds, etc. and the costs are just so high!
We find a couple cheap venues, but then when we look at tent, tables, charis, dancefloor, etc, it just adds up WAY too high.
Any suggestions or advice?
Post # 2
Keep the guest list small, everything on a smaller scale is less expensive.
Post # 3
I’m not sure what part of NJ you’re in but have you tried looking into areas on the outskirts of Jersey, say Chester/Sparta/Ogdensburg or going south NJ like Vineland or Gloucester?
If you stay within North/Central NJ you’re probably not going to be able to find what your’re looking for in terms of “rustic” style or price. NJ is wedding-factory central, so if you’re not having more of the traditional-style wedding venue space then it could price you out of it.
Also, you didn’t mention how many ppl you’re having? When the wedding is tentatively planned for? etc. All those things can definitely change where you can accomplish the wedding, for example: 50 ppl at a museum for a brunch wedding in later Autumn could work well under $10k, but 200 ppl for a 5 course sitdown dinner at a museum in the Summer may not.
So, those details could matter heavily.
Post # 4
RobNJ: check out this place, they have tables and chairs you can use i believe. i was going to have my wedding there but i found something closer to home!
Post # 5
RobNJ: How did you make out? I am wondering the same!
Post # 6
We’ve had to book two weddings- we kept prices down by choosing all inclusive places (a mansion in Westchester, NY and a castle/hotel in Ireland).
We negotiated a LOT with both places. The first place let us choose a BBQ menu instead of the traditional table service menu which brought the price down a lot.
The second place in Ireland we got at almost half the usual price per person by choosing a date in February instead of the warmer months. Both places told us that we could save during the high months by choosing a Friday which we considered as well. We’re having 100-120 at both. Maybe an off-season date or some heavy negotiation with a venue to adjust their offerings can help keep costs down?
Post # 7
The least expensive venue I found during my search in SJ was Bogey’s http://bogeysclubandcafe.com/. Number of guests is definitely the most important thing to shrink in order to keep costs down. Another option we considered to lower cost was having our wedding catered by the Pop Shop and having a grilled cheese reception! Lowering the guest count was not an option for me, and the grilled cheese idea was nixed by our parents, and I ended up around $30k for everything. I have meticulous budget notes for the cost of everything in SJ, so PM me if you want more information. Good luck!