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Do you guys think a 3yr old is too young to be a flower girl and walk down the aisle? She is 2 right now, and is quite a handful. She is my niece. Her mom is my Maid of Honor. I was just gonna let her walk up the aisle with her Mom. What do you all think? Should be interesting...hehehehe....
Our flower girls were 3 and 5- it helped that the 3 year old was happy to just follow her sister.
Our ring bearers were 6 and 2- the 2 year old never made it down the aisle.
Each kid is different, it will honestly all depend on how they are feeling that day- just have a back up plan in case she is shy.... and another parent with candy at the front of the aisle ;)
My flower girl will be turning 3 a month after our wedding. I am having her walk with her 5 year old brother who is our ring bearer. I'm going into it with the mindset that if she walks, wonderful, if not, oh well life goes on. As long as you're not going to be heartbroken by her refusing to participate when it comes down to it, then go for it!
my rule is if they cant make it down the aisle by themselves then they are too young.. even though its cute to see the really young ones doing, i personally dont like to see them being walked down the aisle by an adult who isnt in the bridal party just because at the last minute they were overcome by the sheer size of the crowd.. but like lemondrop said each kid is different and some can handle it better than others
No! 3 would be cute. She could get nervous, or panic, but that could happen to ANY kid.
I certainly hope not... my daughter is just about three and she is our flower girl. I'm hoping there are no huge tantrums, but I'm not too worried; she's pretty stoked!
We have decided not to have a ring bearer or flower girl simply because our actual ceremony will be only about 20 people. Which is too bad because they can make a pretty cute little picture.
When we were thinking of doing a bigger ceremony I felt like my godson's Mom (my cousin) and my FSIL who has a daughter both thought their kids should be in the wedding. While both kids are adorable and I love them the will both be just under 2, 22 months and 23 months, the idea worried me. I had thought of having my younger sister (13) be the junior bridesmaid and I was going to have her on child walking duty, to make sure they both got done the isle. I think you're on the right track having somebody walk down with her but will she want to part ways with her Mom once up in front? Or will she stand next to the MOH the entire time?
Mr. E's niece will be turning 3 a month after our wedding. She is attached at the hip to her dad, who is the best man, so we're hoping she'll walk to him at the end of the aisle. If not, we'll just have her sit with her mom and skip the walk.
I would imagine that if she is walking with her mum, that she would be ok. In all honesty, the walk isn't that long, so I would think that most 3 year olds could manage it.
My flower girl was 3 and she never made it down the aisle even though her older sister was going to walk her (this was how we planned it). They get really overwhelmed that day so I would not recommend it.
My niece, (almost 3) and my FI's cousin (5) will be flower girls.... My MOH is the 3 year old's mom, so if she won't walk down the aisle with the 5 year old, she'll hopefully go with her mom!
It really depends on so many factors. Kids at that age are totally unpredictable! 
Thanks guys, Yah, I'm pretty easy going, if she feels like walking down then awesome, if she throws a tantrum adn doesn't want to, then no biggie! We will get dressed and take pics early when she is happy, at least we will have some cute pics together. So excited to see her all dressed up. I love when it's a family affair!
My flower girl will be 14 months and my ring bearers will be 15 months and 4 years. Yes i'm having 2 ring bearers, my only nephews and i know the FG and one RB is really young but i want them in it anyways....it will be fun to watch even if they don't make it down the aisle.
When my nephew was 2.5, he freaked out and went screaming down to aisle--it was b/c his mom was a bridesmaid and he completely flipped out about her walking away from him. So, I think it's a good idea to let her walk with him =]. He was 2 when he was in our wedding and his grandma had to help him along. It was super cute--and once he saw his dad (a groomsman), he bolted down the aisle. So it's good for them to have some guidance at that young age!
Personally, I wouldn't do it. DF's God Son was a ring bearer at the age of 2 1/2 and he just SCREAMED and cried and never maid it down the aisle on the wedding day. Instead he had a huge scream fest outside the church and everyone heard. His Mom missed the whole ceremony because she had to sit out with him and the Mom was really upset. And I have to add, at the rehearsal he did great. He loved his partner (the flower girl who was 6ish) and followed her with no problem the day before. Best of luck to you.
We have a flower girl that is only going to be 23 months at the time of the wedding (FI niece) and one that will be almost 5. I am hoping the 5 year old will help the little one, but if not, oh well. We are honestly just having them for the pictures anyway, so it's not a huge deal.
3 is a good age. and a super cute age as well. I was 3 when i was in my first wedding. If she gets flustered on the big day she doesnt have to walk down. No big deal.
It might help if there is another little one to walk down the with,
Best way to see is ask the mother. She will know how well the girl will do with a situation like that. But at that age she shouldn't have trouble walking so if she is nervous she could walk with another attendant.
@Kitty Kat: I was the exact same way - easygoing about the kids! My flower girls (7 and 5) made it down the aisle fine and took their job so seriously; it was really cute! I thought that they might be nervous and back out, but it turned out my ring bearer (age 4) was the nervous one. He walked down with my sister (he's our nephew), and halfway down he got shy and hid behind her, burying his face in her backside! Apparently, it was super cute. :)
That should be fine! Both of my ring bearers were 3 and my flower girl was 4 and they all made it down the aisle perfectly! (And were super cute in the process!)
It depends on the child. Some are very shy at any age, and some are handfuls. A shy child would be traumatized with that job. Someone who is a handful, as you said this relative is, would not be a good choice either unless you know for a fact that she will behave the entire time, otherwise all eyes will be on her dramatics rather than your ceremony. I agree with another poster who mentioned that the child should be able to walk down the aisle themselves. Many (obviously not all) have no issues with this. As for age alone, 3 is an appropriate starting age for flowergirls in general, but again, every individual is different. Any younger is probably not a good idea.
My flower girl was 2.5 years old and walked down the aisle fine with her Mom. She did cause a ruckus through our entire ceremony though which wasn't her fault, it was her parents fault for not removing her or having toys prepared to keep her occupied. We were told for months that she would be fine, she is used to being in church, turns out the parents were just used to her fussing in church and were good at tuning her out.
Well...if she's walking with her mom, she might be fine and make it down the aisle okay. But you want to consider how she might behave during the ceremony. At my SIL's wedding, they had an absolutely beautiful 3 year old flowergirl (she was the daughter of the MOH) and she did just fine walking down the aisle. But during the ceremony she was wandering around the altar the whole time. She was adorable, but there were so many low lit candles everywhere and I was having a minor heart attack in the front row the whole time seeing her and her little flowergirl dress so close to the candles!
Our flower girl is turning 4 just before our wedding. I dont forsee any problems with her at all.
It depends on the girl. If she's with her mom, and if she doesn't mind being in the spotlight, go for it! She'll be super cute, I'm sure.
Younger than 2 can be difficult because they may not make it down the aisle on their own okay, but 3 is probably fine. I would have your MOH escort her, that'll probably avoid any freaking out or screaming.
My flower girls were 3 and my ring bearers were 3 (both twins). The flower girls did a great job while the ring bearers didn't make it down the aisle. It really just depends on the maturity level of the child.
My flower girl will be 2 and a hlf at the time of our wedding so I'm hoping it will work. I'm going to have her and my nephew (ring bearer) walk down together. He'll be 5 and a half at the time of the wedding so hopefully he can help her.
Our flower girls were 3 and 6, so the younger one (niece) just followed my cousin down the aisle. It was really cute, cuz she just threw flowers exactly on top of my cousins instead of spreading them out! Our ring bearers were our nephews, 5 and 5 months at the time. The 5 year old pulled his baby brother down the aisle in a wagon and it.was.the.cutest.thing.ever!!! We really wanted all the kids to be in it, so I told my SIL if he could sit up by himself I thought it would be really cute and she was surprised that we wanted him to be in it. Hello, he's our nephew and our godson as well, so hells yes we wanted him in it! We have such great pics of the kids, even the baby. I'm so happy they were all a part of our day, and our nephew can say he was in a wedding when he was just 5 months old 
I think with alot of practice, she can do it! My sister was also my MOH and her daughter who was three and a half by the time i got married was my flower girl.
We made her practice smiling and walking and holding something in her hands. we explained that alot of people will be looking at her and its not nice to stare at the floor while walking. it took a few lessons and she got it.
I didnt vote because I think it totally depends on the child. Our flower girl was 4 and even at 3 she would have been big enough to do the flower girl thing - she was actually in a wedding at 3.5. Our ring bearer was 3.5 and he wasnt even able to hold our ring pillow - the one that I spent 25 minutes making! haha but its ok - again, I think you or the child's parents will know best of what their ability is
I agree that practice and some bribery will work great!! We had candy at the end of the isle which helped. They just went and sat down with their parents after we got to the front and the actual ceremony started. They would have been too fidgity to stand at the front for the whole ceremony. Just the five minutes they were up they they were getting bored.
Talk about it a lot in advance and let them know as much as you can what the day will entail. Make sure she knows that lots of people will be looking at her, she has to walk slow, smile etc. All of this in exchange for getting to do the fun "big girl stuff" like holding flowers, wearing a pretty dress, and getting their hair done.
We are having FI's nephew as a ring bearer at age 2. I honestly think he'll be able to walk by himself. He is the most social little thing. I know he won't get nervous at the prospect of some silly little crowd. He'll probably love it! =] We just intend to have FI's sister calling him toward the front of the aisle if any problems arise. I would say that it depends on the child.
I can only speak from personal experience that having our 22 month old nephew in our wedding party was awesome. I think whether or not it will work totally depends on the child and their personality. My nephew loves to be the center of attention but he also gets really shy around strangers and he has his moods. It really could have gone either way and I was mentally prepared for that. I asked that an adult to remain at the back of the church in case he had a melt down to keep him from disrupting the ceremony. They were also there in case he froze... they could just carry him down the aisle. I made sure to get him a couple little "quiet" toys that he really enjoyed and had his mom keep them at the front of the church for him. One thing I would HIGHLY recommend is having them take a seat once they walk to the front. Even 15 minutes of standing still is a long time for little kids. That way if they're seated they can be distracted with food/toys/etc and they don't become a distraction for your guests. I couldn't image my day without photos like these...
FH's niece will be three, and we're planning on having her as a flower girl. I'm totally prepared for the possibility that she might freak out and mom might have to rescue her, but that's okay--it's about her comfort level. If she gets to the door and decides, "Nope, not doing this," that's okay, too. She can sit with her mom. :) Just be flexible, OP, and it should be fine.
@Miss_Riley: Thanks so much for you input. Your pictures with him are priceless. Beautiful. I can't wait! My niece is adorable and whether or not she makes it down the aisle, I will have a lifetime of memories and photos all dressed up of her being my little flower girl. Thanks for sharing!!
Great pics Miss Riley! So adorable! :)
My flower girl will be roughly 2 years old on my wedding. She's my niece, and she will just walk with my sister, who is my MOH.
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