Is a 30-minute drive too far?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m a little confused, so 30 minutes for most guests to the ceremony and then another 30-35 minutes back to where they came from?  Plus multiple hours between the ceremony and reception where guests aren’t doing anything?  If that’s the case then I don’t really think that works, essentially that’s an hours drive broken up by a 15 minutes or so ceremony and then a few hour break until the reception.  If I’m off on what you’re saying, then ignore that. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

Not too far at all, IMO.  In my area, that’s cross town with traffic!  However, a gap of more than say 45 minutes  between the ceremony and the reception is considered inconsiderate of one’s guests.  

 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FutureMrsHallam:  A 30 minute drive is nothing to those who are used to big cities.

A few hours between wedding and reception?  Can you not take some of these pics before the wedding? A few hours is really too long to ask your guests to fend for themselves.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@FutureMrsHallam:  I don’t think it’s too far. Most of my guests will be travelling an hour or so, one direction. Of course, my ceremony and reception will be at the same location, but where I come from, it’s at least a 30 minute drive just to get to a grocery store. LOL! And here, most people don’t come to the ceremony anyway, they just come to the party. 🙂 Do what you have to do to make YOUR day everything you’ve dreamed of. The people who love you and your FI will be there, no matter the distance.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@FutureMrsHallam:  I don’t think it’s too far at all. As far as the gap in between, I’m with you. Every quincenera, wedding, etc has had a couple hours from the ceremony and the reception. I don’t know why some brides think their guests are kids and can’t be left unattended. There’s a gap? Go back to the hotel. Grab food. Visit with other family. Help the hosts set up if necessary. It’s just what we do. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@FutureMrsHallam:  As a guest I wouldn’t care for it, but it’s your wedding and only you know your guests well enough.  I personally thought that cocktail hour was supposed to be for taking pictures so that your guests have something to do for the entire event.  However, if gaps like this are common amongst your friends, I would think they would understand.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Lol, half my bridal guests are flying across the country to attend our wedding. 30 minutes is not far at all. I drive an hour and 15 minutes to work and an hour and a half to school one way. XD Most of my family in this area will be driving anywhere between 45 minutes and 10 hours. xD I definitely don’t think 30 minutes is far AT ALL.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@julies1949:  +1. I would take the pics pre-ceremony to cut out some of the time. But other than that, a 30 min drive is fine. My wedding was 45 mins away from our hometown where 90% of the guests lived and we had a 60 guest wedding.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think a 30 minute drive is any problem. Especially since you are in Australia where many people are used to driving far longer distances to go shopping! In fact, even here in England, it’d take at least 30 minutes to cross town in our nearest city. 

I am slightly concerned at the “several hours to take photos though” if this means more than two hours, max. What are your guests going to do while this happens? Only unless you provide something for them to eat and do OR split the day into two – ceremony followed by several hours break before the reception – you’ll have a lot of bored unhappy guests milling about waiting for you to rejoin them. There’s only so much polite conversation you can enjoy in the absence of anything else happening! Either way, you need to make the timings absolutely clear on the invitation.

 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FutureMrsHallam:  That sounds better. There is a big  difference between 1.5- max 2 hours and a few hours. I wasn’t suggesting pics of the two of you before the wedding. I wouldn’t want that either. But the photographer can take pics of you and the BM’s, the groom and the groomsmen, you and your family, him and his family etc. That leaves way less pics to be taken following the ceremony.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FutureMrsHallam:  Now you’ve explained what’s happening it sounds fine. It is just that from your first post it looked as if you planned to have the ceremony, then a break of several hours and then a reception without any mention of what your guests were expected to do for those several hours. If they have their own homes to go back to or hospitality at someone else’s home then that’s great.

But I have been to a couple of weddings in England where the majority of the out of town guests were surprised to discover that they were expected to hang around, far from home, and without any available hospitality, Even the local guests didn’t know what they were supposed to do because the invitation didn’t make it clear that there would be a considerable break between the ceremony and the reception.

It sounds as if you have this covered though. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Mine was a 1.5-2 hour drive, at 9 in the morning. But where I live almost everyone is very used to driving long distances. We also didn`t want to do any pictures before, so we had a couple of hours in between. No one minded, in fact they all had a lot of fun! the only difference is that our reception was at the same place as our ceremony. Go for it!

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