Is a black MOG dress really that bad??

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Is a black MOG dress inappropriate?
    Yes. A MOG should never ever ever wear black. : (15 votes)
    11 %
    I've heard the rule but wouldn't think much about it. : (18 votes)
    13 %
    No, it's perfectly fine. : (66 votes)
    47 %
    I didn't even know there was a problem with wearing black. : (40 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 5
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    42510 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @anonymousfornow:  There’s a reason that it was MIL’s mother who said this. She’s older.

    It’s an old rule, stemming from the days when no women wore black to a wedding. It no longer applies.

    Post # 7
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Eh, I wouldn’t think anything of it if your date really is in October (a fall/winter etc wedding). If she wore a big black dress to a summer wedding I might be like what…? lol

    People wear black to weddings all the time!

    Post # 9
    Member
    328 posts
    Helper bee

    @anonymousfornow:  I would not think anything of it, especially seeing an older woman in black.  But honestly, I don’t think I would think twice about seeing anyone in black at a wedding.  I think that rule is kind of done.

    I take that back, I once performed at a wedding where the bride wore black.

    Post # 10
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    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Well, the “rule” is that when either one of the mothers wears a black dress it signifies that she doesn’t approve of the wedding. At least that’s what I heard. 

    But to hell with the rule! It’s probably about as old as “only virgins get to wear white” rule and we all know hardly anyone follows that one anymore! 🙂 

    If you both like the dress, who cares if it’s black, right? 

    Post # 11
    Member
    185 posts
    Blushing bee

    @anonymousfornow:  I’d really not worry about this.  If your MIL hated you and she wore black to the wedding, then I could see being offended – it would be like she was making a statement lol.  But you have a good relationship with your MIL!  As long as she’s comfortable and happy, and YOU are comfortable and happy, I see no problem with a black dress. 

    Post # 12
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    1887 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @anonymousfornow:  I see lots of people wear black to weddings. I know you’re not supposed to wear white when it’s not your wedding, but besides that, as far as I know, there is no restriction on colors.

    Post # 13
    Member
    185 posts
    Blushing bee

    @nightborn:  Apparently red is also a no-no, which I’d never heard until actually being engaged.  I could care less if a guest wore black or red, or even white (as long as it wasn’t long or fancier than my dress, lol). 

    Post # 14
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    2675 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I went to a July garden wedding where both the MOB and MOG were told by the bride to wear short black cocktail dresses. They didn’t look out of place and no one thought anything about it.

    Post # 15
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    6644 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t see why not my MIL wore black.. not a huge deal

    Post # 16
    Member
    11734 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My mother and MIL both wore black.  Some friends told me later they were originally surprised when MIL walked in wearing black, but realized it was planned and okay when my mother came in wearing black as well.

    I think as long as it doesn’t look like a dress that could be worn to a funeral, then you’re fine with black.

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