Post # 1
Next weekend, we are invited to a surprise 30th birthday party for my friend’s sister’s husband.
I’ve been friends with this girl (and her sisters) since we were like, 11, so I know their family pretty well. I’ve been to all their weddings and house-warmings and they will be at mine. But I don’t consider them super-close friends, as in we only see each other a few times a year.
So my question is: do you bring a gift in this situation?? I know the guy relatively well, but not well enough to know what kind of gift to get.
I’ve thought about liquor or a bottle of wine but I’m not familiar enough with his tastes. Same goes for a restaurant gift card.
Are lottery tickets okay? Or a gas gift card?
Or is it okay to NOT bring a gift?
Do you have a “rule” for this situation?
Post # 3
@Stace126: Gifts are optional but I usually bring a bottle of wine if the party is held at their home. In the situation where the party is at a restaurant I don’t generally bring a gift.
Post # 4
My friends and I dont exchange gifts at bday parties but I think this may depend on your social circle.
Post # 5
@Stace126: i always think that when in doubt, a good bottle of wine or a bottle of champagne is a safe bet, because even if the person isn’t keen on it or you don’t know their particular taste, they can reuse it to gift to someone else (which i personally don’t find offensive if i don’t know them that well!). i’ve never known anyone to not like a bottle of champagne/prosecco though, it’s always useful to have for guests etc.!
Post # 6
I think its optional. For my gfs I always pick something out that I know they’ll love from sephora or cute jewelry. Guys we usually bring alcohol of some sort.
Post # 7
I would bring a bottle of wine or something edible. If you are a baker, cookies or brownies are pretty much loved by everyone.
Post # 8
I love the idea of lottery tickets- I think it’s fun and festive and you never know…could hit it big!
Post # 9
I’d never turn up at a party empty-handed; I always bring a card, and if I don’t know the person well, something fairly generic/safe like a decent bottle of wine. That’s just me though.
Post # 10
@Stace126: Lottery tickets or some kind of gift card are fine. I ususally go with wine or pastry, if I can’t think of anything else.
Post # 11
i usually take a bottle of wine… most of the time, the host will open it during the party, so it shouldn’t matter too much if it’s their taste. 🙂 i usually use the opportunity to buy a kind that i’ve wanted to try for a while.
Post # 12
I would bring a gift if it’s an actual party in someone’s home (maybe just a bottle of wine as others said, but I definitely would bring something) for a major birthday (aka every 5-10 years, NOT every single year). What my friends and I normally do is we just go out (food, drinking, movie, whatever the bday person wants to do) and everybody pays for the birthday girl/boy’s meal/drinks/tickets/etc and make the night out the gift. I actually can’t remember the last real “party” somebody had…at my mom’s 50th, she paid a lot of money to rent out a restaurant and throw a real party and people brought gifts…
Post # 13
It’s a birthday. One day out of the year that someone can get spoiled. Bring something. Unless you truly can’t afford it and then I wouldn’t even attend if that were the case (and it were me.)
Post # 14
I’d prob bring one just b/c I never like to go to a party empty handed. I’d say a card and a bottle of wine is something I’d bring!
Post # 15
I usually bring a bottle of wine, or a bottle of Rumchata (amazing to take as shots), and never met anyone who hasn’t liked it (tastes like cinnamon toast crunch cereal)-just chill and serve.
Post # 16
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I’d always say wine, it’s just so convenient and universally accepted.
Not sure about lotto tickets, could be fun if he plays, less so if he doesn’t. Amazon or HMV gift cards are what I’d suggest if you wanted to go down that route 🙂