Post # 1
I’m having a local, home-town wedding. My fiance and I own a house about 5 miles from where I grew up and my parents still live, and our wedding is local. My question… do you think it’s “necessary” to stay in a hotel room after the wedding? It seems silly to stay in a hotel 20 minutes from home when we could leave the reception and get home just as quickly as to the nearest hotel. I know it would be “special” to stay in the hotel, but dropping $150-$200 to rent a hotel room that happens to be across the street from my office seems… weird. We’re trying to keep costs down, and I’d rather spend that money on say, an excursion on our honeymoon cruise or something, which we go on the following week.
What do other people do who have a wedding in the same town they live in? If it helps, the wedding is in 4 months and I haven’t moved into the house yet- we don’t live together. (Fiance lives in the house.) I plan to move in maybe 2 months before the wedding so I don’t have to deal with moving stress on top of last minute wedding things, so it will still be “new” to me.
Post # 3
I would…but that’s totally my personal preference. My friend is getting married in April and all of the festivities are super close to her house, but she’s still staying in a hotel room the night before (and her FI will stay at their shared house) and they two of them are staying at the hotel together the wedding night as well.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s necessary at all. We will be doing it, because I think it is more special and it might be a bit anti-climactic for us just to go back to the same flat we’ve lived in for 5 years on our wedding night, but I think it’s totally down what you and your FI want to do and how your budget is looking.
Post # 5
Is it necessary? No. Would it be nice? Sure.
Our venue was literally down the street from our house, about a 10 minute drive. But I didn’t want to have my getting ready photos taken in our home, so I opted to stay in a nice hotel the night before and DH joined me after the wedding. The hotel was about 20 minutes away. We ended up taking our first look photos around the resort and seeing those photos made it worth it for us.
Post # 6
@ZChick17: We are having our wedding about an hour from his parents house and thats where we will stay our wedding night. We have to get up very early to drive to where our cruise is leaving from so it just seemed like a waste to pay for a hotel room when we have to leave so early, plus his mom will be driving down with us to housesit so it all just seems more logical. That’s extra money for our cruise!
It would be nice, and I certainly wouldn’t mind, but it just makes the most sense.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
@ZChick17: I don’t think it’s necessary, but we are since we don’t live in that area (my mom lives about an hour from the venue but we are DEFINITELY not staying at her place on the wedding night). Our venue will give us a free room if we meet our minimum room nights for our hotel block, so we are hoping to get it for free!
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s nescessary at all, but we are still doing it. We live 5-10 minutes from our venue.. the hotel we’re staying at is maybe 2 minutes away from the venue. So while we could of went home no problem, I think it’s part of the fun of staying out the night of your wedding. Plus we have a shuttle taking us from the venue to the hotel, if we went home we’d have to find a way home – I don’t know if we’ll be in shape to drive. Plus a large group of our guests are staying at the hotel, so it’ll be fun to go back with them & then maybe bump into some of them the next morning. It’s only costing us $109 plus tax, to me it’s worth it.
Post # 9
You know…we went back to our house on our wedding night and I love that our first night as a married couple was spent in our home. Mr. 99 carried me over the threshold, I was in my dress, he was in his tux. He had made our bedroom a really special place with candles and satin sheets and flowers…I think another factor in our decision was the fact that we were flying to the South Pacific for our honeymoon the next day, and wanted time to get everything packed and set up, spend time with the dogs, get the house sitter settled, we even went to our favorite coffee shop with the rest of our wedding cake and served peices…it was a nice, relaxing, start to married life.
Post # 10
its not necessary, but i think itd be nicer to have the hotel for one night. esp if they decorate it prettily (some do it for free, petals or fruit or whatever)
and then sleep in and have a nice (preferably buffet) hot breakfast before you leave that you neither have to cook nor do the dishes for.
btu if you prefer to save the money and go home do that!! it can be equally romantic where your new husband carries you across the threshold and you go to your home for the first time as newlyweds
Post # 11
Our venue is just about 5 minutes from our apartment, but we have to catch a plane at 6:00 the morning after our wedding, so we’re staying at a hotel near the airport (which is probably 20 minutes away.)
If we weren’t leaving so early, I would probably still want to stay somewhere special for our wedding night, but if you don’t want to pay for a hotel room, don’t! There’s nothing wrong with going home together 🙂
Post # 12
It’s your wedding night… make it special….
Post # 13
Not at all necessary. Alot of my friends have stayed at their own home. Our wedding is 15 min from our house.
HOWEVER, we are staying at a really nice hotel and not letting anyone know the location because the last thing we want is people bothering us right after the wedding. We are going off the grid for a few days to enjoy some time together!
Post # 14
It’s not necessary, but it was very important for me to stay the night in a hotel away from family and friends.
Post # 15
@ZChick17: the venue of our wedding is literally a mile and a half from our apartment. we are staying in a hotel the whole weekend so that we can use our apartment as sort of a “hospitality suite”. We figured the extra cost for us is worth it because we’ll be way more relaxed and be able to more comfortably provide out-of-towners with an extra location to hang out.
my parents are staying there for the few nights leading up to the wedding so that they don’t have to pay for a hotel and so that if my little brother wants my cousins to come over or whatever, they aren’t in a tiny hotel room.
certainly not mandatory, but we’ve found quite a few extra reasons that it makes sense for us and you may too.
Post # 16
I agree that it’s nice, but definitely not a necessity, especially if you’re trying to cut down on costs. We stayed at the hotel right by the airport on our wedding night because 1) we didn’t live together yet and 2) we had a REALLY early AM flight. It was still a nice hotel, but pretty inexpensive, so we could put the extra money toward the honeymoon!